I'm gonna risk saying after reading thru this thread, there are some here that could use oversensitivity training.
Sure seems to be a lot of advice concerning the plantiff's rights based on so little information of what the acccused is actually doing in the original post.
I believe that no matter what one does or says there can always be someone found to take offense at said action.
Unfortunately today the trend seems to be if someone's perception disagrees or differs in beliefs with one, society encourages to readily apply a negative label such as bigot, racist, sexist, or phobic.
This could be nothing more than a misunderstanding due to poor communication.
I didn't see any posts that said "Run to a lawyer and sue the pants of UPS!" or "Go to your steward right away! They can't do that!" These are some of the responses I have seen in other threads where it is something much more mild than potential sexual harassment and both parties usually carry some of the responsibility for the incident (i.e. I had little accident and now I have to wait a year to try to become a driver.)
When should she take action, after he physically/mentally violates her. I don't wait to talk to my son about preventing people from abusing him until after it happens. First, I sit down and tell him what is appropriate and inappropriate. Then, I tell him if anyone makes him feel uncomfortable or asks him to do any of these things, he should say NO and go immediately to an adult he can trust to tell them. This is b/c of the power differential b/w him and adults. Same thing applies to management/employee relationships.
I am sorry, but I do not think for one second anyone should have to put up with inappropriate behavior. It is that kind of thinking that leads to tolerance of sexual harassment in the first place. The amazing thing is, if this guy is a potential sexual harasser, simply putting up a boundary now by telling him the looks make her feel uncomfortable is usually enough to prevent future harassment. If he didn't mean anything by it, no harm done.
I would think by some of the comments on this thread, it would be pretty easy to see that there isn't quite an agreement on what is and is not appropriate. I mean, how many posts included something that indicated if the manager was looking then it was Steffie's fault for wearing tight, revealing clothing. That is a pretty big assumption about her "based on so little information". If I were Steffie, I would have been insulted! I do not wear revealing/tight clothing and truckers freakin' honk at me and wave when I am driving down the highway at 70 mph. But, I am sure it is my fault in some way and shouldn't be upset that once I almost wrecked b/c of it.
. Maybe you, the crybaby that gets beat up all the time by his sup., and that other troll, should get together and take UPS to cleaners.
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