husband having an affair with management

[upschuck]

Regardless....being vindictive never solves anything

Agreed, usually doesn't turn out well, but rational minds don't always prevail in the heat of the matter.

 

[IVE GOTTA PACKAGE 4U]

Agreed, usually doesn't turn out well, but rational minds don't always prevail in the heat of the matter.

I agree

 

[BigUnionGuy]

While I was away on business trip he had her in our house.

The fact that she was in our house multiple times is very hard to forgive and accept.

How do you know this ?

Is it an assumption.... or a fact ?



Why haven't you called a Lawyer ?

 

[Brownies...mmm]

Do you have to use a load stand to build a wall?

Yes sometimes, I'm 5'8 and use it when I need it

 

[trickpony1]

Is someone in the Ivory Towers in Atlanta on the phone with the Chantilly center by now? BOOM!

"hey....we read on BrownCafe that......"

 

[Chrissy]

It's a fact. They have both admitted to the affair. I am weighing my options and still devastated

 

[Jkloc420]

I am also waiting for upstate new yorks words of wisdom. Surely he will know what to do

 

[Operational needs]

It's a fact. They have both admitted to the affair. I am weighing my options and still devastated

Just don't do anything rational that you'll regret later.

 

[Gear]

Divorce him and take half of everything. Keep UPS out of it, that way you can continue to take the money he worked for. Besides he wont be fired, he'll just get high 5s all day for banging the blonde sup.

Dont go to war with the shock and awe tactic. This give your enemy the chance to lay low and regroup over time.
Play chess and and crush your enemy.

Be smart and think about what you really want to do. One thing us UPSers love is our money. You could take as much as possible all at once. It will hurt but some overtime at work and months/years go by, he'll stuff his mattress full of cash again. Like nothing ever happened. Take his money over time, he'll never forget that.

Get a lawyer, you'll get the last laugh.

 

[Brownies...mmm]

Yes. The fact that she was in our house multiple times is very hard to forgive and accept. Thanks for the decent advice.

As previously stated once you get through the shock. You have to think what works best for you and your family. I haven't been working for UPS long enough to know what happens in these matters.

But as a woman you have to look out for yourself and children if any. The bringing her to the house is what puts it over the top for me. He doesn't deserve you. If he wants to work it out you have to call the shots and have a backbone don't make it easy for him.

 

[Jkloc420]

As previously stated once you get through the shock. You have to think what works best for you and your family. I haven't been working for UPS long enough to know what happens in these matters.

But as a woman you have to look out for yourself and children if any. The bringing her to the house is what puts it over the top for me. He doesn't deserve you. If he wants to work it out you have to call the shots and have a backbone don't make it easy for him.

I can tell you what will happen. She will take him back and he will do it again.

 

[IVE GOTTA PACKAGE 4U]

I am also waiting for upstate new yorks words of wisdom. Surely he will know what to do

I'm not

 

[burrheadd]

While I was away on business trip he had her in our house. You'd be mad as hell too.

Throw that bed on the fire

 

[cosmo1]

I guess BC has become an Ann Landers type advice column.

 

[trickpony1]

Why is it always the man's fault?

The overwhelming presumption is the woman (wife) was pure, pristine and June Cleaver-like which may not be true.

 

[Brisket]

Yes. The fact that she was in our house period is very hard to forgive and accept. Thanks for the decent advice.

fixed it for you

 

[Jkloc420]

Why is it always the man's fault?

The overwhelming presumption is the woman (wife) was pure, pristine and June Cleaver-like which may not be true.

The lady on price is right just won 100000 dollars. She just became more attractive

 

[Brownies...mmm]

Why is it always the man's fault?

The overwhelming presumption is the woman (wife) was pure, pristine and June Cleaver-like which may not be true.

You don't bring your mistress to your house no matter what issues you both have. And a coworker to boot.

 

[Brisket]

Why is it always the man's fault?

The overwhelming presumption is the woman (wife) was pure, pristine and June Cleaver-like which may not be true.

Not always, but in this case the man should have had the ballz to stand tall and respect his wife and simply say no.

 

[tacken]

What state you in ? Here in Cali its half. Step back and take what is owed to you. Half his pay half his pension. And I am sure his new girl friend will leave him soon enough. Isn't there some code of ethics about this happing between management and employee?