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<blockquote data-quote="raceanoncr" data-source="post: 853834" data-attributes="member: 6408"><p>1 Stop, I'll add my little piece of, mostly worthless, slice o life here.</p><p></p><p>So very sorry for your situation. It is heartbreaking, to say the least. There are so many things tearing young ones apart these days, it's difficult to know what to do but I think you and your wife are on the right track.</p><p></p><p>He is 18. OK, in THIS state, he is an adult. He doesn't pay ins, he gets caught driving w/o ins, he's ticketed and fined pretty big time for this age. Again, I say, HERE. He crashes w/o ins HE pays! Not you. Now, it may be that you are co-signers on the loan, well, then, YOU may be the ones that the legal system goes after, ins or not. Be careful. If he continues with this childish tirade, you may want to get your name off ANY loans or documents he has so you are not targeted. </p><p></p><p>I told my son, legal age or not, YOU screw up, YOU pay for it. I'm not bailing you outta jail or financial abyss that is your wreckless doing. YOU pay, either by sitting in jail or working to pay off whatever you screwed up.</p><p></p><p>As far as still living at home, and I know this does not apply here in your case anymore since he's gone, there are things a parent can do without "evicting" them. Many, so-called, therapists suggest that you can take measures at home that WILL make them think and are totally legal. Such as: only providing a mattress, change of clothes and food. THEY want to call Child Protective Services? Let em. The law does not say you hafta provide TV, computer, Ipod, games, etc, etc. </p><p></p><p>They are of legal age and still want to live at home? Well, sure! Same rules apply. Pay rent, contribute to support of the house, do chores, etc, or you are out! Evicted? Legally? No. </p><p></p><p>Sorry if you or anyone else do not agree but these are my feelings. I just don't put up with any chit after I supported you for 18 yrs. </p><p></p><p>Good luck and keep up the good fight.</p><p></p><p>Race</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="raceanoncr, post: 853834, member: 6408"] 1 Stop, I'll add my little piece of, mostly worthless, slice o life here. So very sorry for your situation. It is heartbreaking, to say the least. There are so many things tearing young ones apart these days, it's difficult to know what to do but I think you and your wife are on the right track. He is 18. OK, in THIS state, he is an adult. He doesn't pay ins, he gets caught driving w/o ins, he's ticketed and fined pretty big time for this age. Again, I say, HERE. He crashes w/o ins HE pays! Not you. Now, it may be that you are co-signers on the loan, well, then, YOU may be the ones that the legal system goes after, ins or not. Be careful. If he continues with this childish tirade, you may want to get your name off ANY loans or documents he has so you are not targeted. I told my son, legal age or not, YOU screw up, YOU pay for it. I'm not bailing you outta jail or financial abyss that is your wreckless doing. YOU pay, either by sitting in jail or working to pay off whatever you screwed up. As far as still living at home, and I know this does not apply here in your case anymore since he's gone, there are things a parent can do without "evicting" them. Many, so-called, therapists suggest that you can take measures at home that WILL make them think and are totally legal. Such as: only providing a mattress, change of clothes and food. THEY want to call Child Protective Services? Let em. The law does not say you hafta provide TV, computer, Ipod, games, etc, etc. They are of legal age and still want to live at home? Well, sure! Same rules apply. Pay rent, contribute to support of the house, do chores, etc, or you are out! Evicted? Legally? No. Sorry if you or anyone else do not agree but these are my feelings. I just don't put up with any chit after I supported you for 18 yrs. Good luck and keep up the good fight. Race [/QUOTE]
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