trplnkl
555
With life to go.
Marriage.......And the UPS'er
- Thread starter stevetheupsguy
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trplnkl
555
Steve, I'm really glad you started this thread I think it's been a good one.
Now I want to preface what I'm about to say. I do not pretend to be a physiologist but I have talked to more than a few (only two professionally during the divorce). One fairly recently was an intern at the Rehab place, we sat and just gabbed several times, not a session. At one point we hit on the thoughts you had in your post that I underlined. One thing that happens to marriages is that the little things often go over looked. Some probably think that they will just work out, some that it's no big deal. However sometimes that "little thing" is placed on a shelf along with the other "little things" that have not been addressed. They can, and sometimes do, add up to the point that, they cause the shelf to collapse from the unaddressed weight.
I'm not saying every little thing that happens in day to day life becomes a major problem but if they carry more weight for one of the people in the marriage, they can.
stevetheupsguy
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Very good point, 555.
PT sucks, I cant believe I did it for 8 yrs raising two kids, but I did, and u too will survive. Actually it was a happier part of my life, I had to scrounge for money, but had more time, and that time element now that I look back, not now from where you are is the best gift I ever got. Actually being poorer, I was richer. And Im just counting the days til I can be poorer, again, yet richer in time with my family.
satellitedriver
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Listen up folks, this is true wisdom.
bigbrownhen
Well-Known Member
Just had our 21st anniversary in March. Married at 16(he was 19) with a little one on the way. Most folks didn't give us a chance. We are still going strong and happy as can be. We have had our share of tough spots, but we weathered it together. We set out to make this work knowing we were taking a hard road.
What works for some couples, won't work for others. We are homebodies who do most everything together as we can. Some people can't be around each other that much.
I think the best thing we did was to move away from everyone we knew when we first started out. We had to depend on each other, not run home to Mom and Dad, or go out drinking with the buddies when times got tough. I don't mean to sound like a know-it-all, this is just what has worked for us.
What works for some couples, won't work for others. We are homebodies who do most everything together as we can. Some people can't be around each other that much.
I think the best thing we did was to move away from everyone we knew when we first started out. We had to depend on each other, not run home to Mom and Dad, or go out drinking with the buddies when times got tough. I don't mean to sound like a know-it-all, this is just what has worked for us.
satellitedriver
Moderator
trp,
I totally agree.
It is the "little things" that can become the stumbling block.
One of my favorite sayings is;
"It is not the mountain that stops you on your journey,
it is the pebble in your shoe."
trplnkl
555
That's a hard road to travel and you have traveled it well. I tip my hat to you and your hubby. The responsibility to a child is too many times taken too lightly this day and age.
old levi's
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Marriage is the hardest job you will ever have (and it doesn't pay that well).
34 years in Feb.
34 years in Feb.
Catatonic
Nine Lives
Marriage is the hardest job you will ever have (and it doesn't pay that well).
Well put Dino.
36 for me.
trplnkl
555
But I have a GREAT benefit package.Marriage is the hardest job you will ever have (and it doesn't pay that well).
does your district not practice the use of relative helpers? Here, it is encouraged. We have had a few husband/wife teams for peak... just a few. On occasion, we get a son to team up with his father as well.
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