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<blockquote data-quote="toonertoo" data-source="post: 105593" data-attributes="member: 1944"><p>Nobody has to say anything about the Ow (old witch). It speaks for itself. </p><p>Same with any man that would cheat.</p><p>Us guys/gals here care about the one who has asked for help. Trust me they will need more help in the future than they will get on a board, there is no where they can ever go if they are having a problem, where they will get support from anyone who knows how they got together. The standard answer will be "well what the heck did you expect".</p><p>While you are now suffering, and they look like they are happy as heck, you will be the one in the future who will be happy, and it wont be short lived as theirs will be. What doesnt kill you makes you stronger. What they are experiencing is short term gratification, no pressures of a marriage or commitment, those things that make a relationship strong. And while you are gaining back yourself, people will be watching and have admiration for you, when they see that he was a dweeb, and you are handling it like a solid, stable person. </p><p>I think the hardest part to handle is not the sexual part of an affair, but the intimacy of the personal self they share with the OP. Anyone can have sex, but sharing of thoughts, dreams, feelings, is by far more intimate than sex could ever be. And for me that was what hurt the most. And if you have kids, those are some very intimate moments, and now not having him to share them with is crushing. </p><p> I do love my first husband, I always will, he was my first love, we are great friends, and it was my fault more than his, I was too young to know how to be a wife, and he wasnt ready to be married, we were in our teens. But it takes awhile. </p><p>My second one I like him and his wife, not enough to call up for lunch, or to have coffee with, but I have done both, when required and enjoyed myself OK. </p><p>It comes down in the end to respect, for yourself, he has already lost his. </p><p>After a while it doesnt hurt anymore, you will remember the good and bury the bad. Its a journey, but you will learn alot.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toonertoo, post: 105593, member: 1944"] Nobody has to say anything about the Ow (old witch). It speaks for itself. Same with any man that would cheat. Us guys/gals here care about the one who has asked for help. Trust me they will need more help in the future than they will get on a board, there is no where they can ever go if they are having a problem, where they will get support from anyone who knows how they got together. The standard answer will be "well what the heck did you expect". While you are now suffering, and they look like they are happy as heck, you will be the one in the future who will be happy, and it wont be short lived as theirs will be. What doesnt kill you makes you stronger. What they are experiencing is short term gratification, no pressures of a marriage or commitment, those things that make a relationship strong. And while you are gaining back yourself, people will be watching and have admiration for you, when they see that he was a dweeb, and you are handling it like a solid, stable person. I think the hardest part to handle is not the sexual part of an affair, but the intimacy of the personal self they share with the OP. Anyone can have sex, but sharing of thoughts, dreams, feelings, is by far more intimate than sex could ever be. And for me that was what hurt the most. And if you have kids, those are some very intimate moments, and now not having him to share them with is crushing. I do love my first husband, I always will, he was my first love, we are great friends, and it was my fault more than his, I was too young to know how to be a wife, and he wasnt ready to be married, we were in our teens. But it takes awhile. My second one I like him and his wife, not enough to call up for lunch, or to have coffee with, but I have done both, when required and enjoyed myself OK. It comes down in the end to respect, for yourself, he has already lost his. After a while it doesnt hurt anymore, you will remember the good and bury the bad. Its a journey, but you will learn alot. [/QUOTE]
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