What I can't figure out Van is that not long ago you were singing the praises about the quality of life in Romania. If it's so great then why don't you just go? We'll take care of things here while you're gone. Furthermore, one moment you're you're carping about how unfair X has been to you regarding their recent pay and benefit restructuring ' while at the same time defending that company right to the very hilt. Just which way do you want it? In addition while it wasn't your fault that your parents split up your mother wasn't being fair to you when she was just too damn proud and too damn stubborn to accept public assistance to ensure your well being. The well being of minor children who through no fault of their own are caught up in situations similar to the one you described are why many such programs exist in the first place.