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<blockquote data-quote="hubrat" data-source="post: 795185" data-attributes="member: 869"><p>Mutual respect. Are we really so far gone as a nation that we cannot do this? If someone is truly that mistrustful, he is extremely frightened and probably has not had very many opportunities in his life. He probably doesn't really truly trust anyone. When you actually meet a person that fearful, you can at least guess there's a darn good reason he feels that way. He hasn't learned some key coping skills. It's not an intelligence thing, or a political thing, it's a human thing. Somewhere along the way to where he is today he missed a learning opportunity. His mistrust is not necessarily wrong either. It's saved his ass for a lotta years. But it's time for him to open himself to something new. The mistrust that has worked well up to now is unreasonable.</p><p></p><p>Having an open mind doesn't mean that you hafta give up your security. </p><p>It just means you'll haft learn to be o.k. With a little ambivalence. </p><p>It doesn't mean you have to agree to change anything. </p><p>It does mean you will experience some uncomfortable feelings, but they won't kill you, they will subside, and your life will improve.</p><p>It doesn't mean anybody's wrong. It means we're different.</p><p></p><p>It's not about being corrected or right/wrong. It isn't about insults or saving face. </p><p>It isn't about making mistakes even though we all will continue to do that. It's o.k. to change your mind and it's ok not to. </p><p>And it is not about what side you're on. That's a detail. We are going to disagree on some things. But the other person's opinions and beliefs are very valid to him.</p><p></p><p>Just be open to learning a little more about yourself and others, and how you relate. Be tolerant of ppl whose opinions differ from yours. Their guts have saved their asses a lotta times too.</p><p></p><p>It's still all about respect. Some things will never change.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hubrat, post: 795185, member: 869"] Mutual respect. Are we really so far gone as a nation that we cannot do this? If someone is truly that mistrustful, he is extremely frightened and probably has not had very many opportunities in his life. He probably doesn't really truly trust anyone. When you actually meet a person that fearful, you can at least guess there's a darn good reason he feels that way. He hasn't learned some key coping skills. It's not an intelligence thing, or a political thing, it's a human thing. Somewhere along the way to where he is today he missed a learning opportunity. His mistrust is not necessarily wrong either. It's saved his ass for a lotta years. But it's time for him to open himself to something new. The mistrust that has worked well up to now is unreasonable. Having an open mind doesn't mean that you hafta give up your security. It just means you'll haft learn to be o.k. With a little ambivalence. It doesn't mean you have to agree to change anything. It does mean you will experience some uncomfortable feelings, but they won't kill you, they will subside, and your life will improve. It doesn't mean anybody's wrong. It means we're different. It's not about being corrected or right/wrong. It isn't about insults or saving face. It isn't about making mistakes even though we all will continue to do that. It's o.k. to change your mind and it's ok not to. And it is not about what side you're on. That's a detail. We are going to disagree on some things. But the other person's opinions and beliefs are very valid to him. Just be open to learning a little more about yourself and others, and how you relate. Be tolerant of ppl whose opinions differ from yours. Their guts have saved their asses a lotta times too. It's still all about respect. Some things will never change. [/QUOTE]
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