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<blockquote data-quote="athena" data-source="post: 209147" data-attributes="member: 9953"><p>Before you all run off and contact your representatives, consider first the implication. I was 19 and innocent as the day is long. I got pregnant. The father decided that either I give the child to him and forget about the kid or I could take the child and he would basically come around when he felt like it. I had a couple of options 1) murder the child (aka abortion) 2) give the kid to the father and forget about him 3) give the child up for adoption or 4) take responsibility for what I had done and put the child before my own needs. I chose option 4.</p><p> </p><p>I was almost 20 when I had my son. I had graduated from high school as the salutatorian (2nd in my class). I was accepted to a great private school with a full scholarship. I later graduated with a bachelor's degree. Then I got my masters and now I am 1 year from having my doctorate degree. I might have been able to do this without "welfare" but it would have been ten times harder and more importantly my son would have suffered. </p><p> </p><p>I will be honest, it was so hard to walk into that family services office and ask for help, especially when I knew it was my fault I was in that position. All I could think of was that I was a bad person for having to do that. All b/c I messed up and trusted someone I shouldn't have. Trust me, if there had been another option (other than welfare), I would have jumped on it but I wouldn't let my kid go without medical attention b/c I couldn't afford it and child support enforcement couldn't get his father to pay for it. </p><p> </p><p>I remember looking at the people that came into that office. I was never once jealous of any of them and mostly felt sorry for them. I was glad I knew my situation was only temporary b/c I had a mother who had taught me that my education would allow me to pick what I WANTED to do and not what I HAD to do.I knew I was meant to do more than just work my butt off for $10/hr at a job I would never really be satisfied doing.</p><p> </p><p>Tooner, you are operating, IMO, under confirmation bias. You have beliefs about "welfare" people and notice the cases that confirm these beliefs and fail to notice the ones that don't or you give excuses for why they don't while still holding your beliefs to be true. I am not saying that welfare fraud doesn't happen but I can guarantee that there are people who use the system and become productive citizens. I will pay more in income taxes during my career than I ever took from welfare.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="athena, post: 209147, member: 9953"] Before you all run off and contact your representatives, consider first the implication. I was 19 and innocent as the day is long. I got pregnant. The father decided that either I give the child to him and forget about the kid or I could take the child and he would basically come around when he felt like it. I had a couple of options 1) murder the child (aka abortion) 2) give the kid to the father and forget about him 3) give the child up for adoption or 4) take responsibility for what I had done and put the child before my own needs. I chose option 4. I was almost 20 when I had my son. I had graduated from high school as the salutatorian (2nd in my class). I was accepted to a great private school with a full scholarship. I later graduated with a bachelor's degree. Then I got my masters and now I am 1 year from having my doctorate degree. I might have been able to do this without "welfare" but it would have been ten times harder and more importantly my son would have suffered. I will be honest, it was so hard to walk into that family services office and ask for help, especially when I knew it was my fault I was in that position. All I could think of was that I was a bad person for having to do that. All b/c I messed up and trusted someone I shouldn't have. Trust me, if there had been another option (other than welfare), I would have jumped on it but I wouldn't let my kid go without medical attention b/c I couldn't afford it and child support enforcement couldn't get his father to pay for it. I remember looking at the people that came into that office. I was never once jealous of any of them and mostly felt sorry for them. I was glad I knew my situation was only temporary b/c I had a mother who had taught me that my education would allow me to pick what I WANTED to do and not what I HAD to do.I knew I was meant to do more than just work my butt off for $10/hr at a job I would never really be satisfied doing. Tooner, you are operating, IMO, under confirmation bias. You have beliefs about "welfare" people and notice the cases that confirm these beliefs and fail to notice the ones that don't or you give excuses for why they don't while still holding your beliefs to be true. I am not saying that welfare fraud doesn't happen but I can guarantee that there are people who use the system and become productive citizens. I will pay more in income taxes during my career than I ever took from welfare. [/QUOTE]
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