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An Open Letter to Brown Cafe Bullies and Flamers
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<blockquote data-quote="zubenelgenubi" data-source="post: 5109234" data-attributes="member: 63706"><p>Sorry, I thought it was clear that I wasn't being literal. But this is the problem with trying to control others, misunderstandings.</p><p></p><p></p><p>You can act in a tyrannical manner by attempting to impose your will on others using existing power structures. That's how the mask mandates work.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Calling people names on the internet isn't a crime, in the US. If you want to compare it to a criminal and victim scenario, you can. Some cases might even rise to the level of warranting that, which is why I'm not opposed to enforcing the TOS rule when needed. But, by and large, the behavior that is seen on BC is along the lines of hazing.</p><p></p><p>Hazing being a social ritual whereby people test each other's limits, develop mutual respect for one another, and induct others into any sort of a "club". As in the situation that prompted this thread, [USER=48491]@542thruNthru[/USER] was signalling to [USER=75797]@Captain Qwark[/USER] that he saw her as being "in the club" by making fun of her, believing should understood his intent, and not meaning to make her upset. It's a sign of respect that sometimes is misunderstood by the receiving party. And sometimes the signalling party misunderstands and takes it too far.</p><p></p><p>Some people get it, some don't. That's ok. But if you feel like an outsider, it's probably because you don't understand hazing and its role in human interaction. People who are extra sensitive, or particularly introverted, tend not to understand the ritual. I didn't understand it very well back in highschool, and almost got the crap kicked out of me because the way I reacted to it. I finally got it figured out, mostly, in boot camp. Learning to haze is a good exercise in learning to stand up for yourself in a way that won't get you shunned from the group. If you don't care about belonging, that's ok too.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="zubenelgenubi, post: 5109234, member: 63706"] Sorry, I thought it was clear that I wasn't being literal. But this is the problem with trying to control others, misunderstandings. You can act in a tyrannical manner by attempting to impose your will on others using existing power structures. That's how the mask mandates work. Calling people names on the internet isn't a crime, in the US. If you want to compare it to a criminal and victim scenario, you can. Some cases might even rise to the level of warranting that, which is why I'm not opposed to enforcing the TOS rule when needed. But, by and large, the behavior that is seen on BC is along the lines of hazing. Hazing being a social ritual whereby people test each other's limits, develop mutual respect for one another, and induct others into any sort of a "club". As in the situation that prompted this thread, [USER=48491]@542thruNthru[/USER] was signalling to [USER=75797]@Captain Qwark[/USER] that he saw her as being "in the club" by making fun of her, believing should understood his intent, and not meaning to make her upset. It's a sign of respect that sometimes is misunderstood by the receiving party. And sometimes the signalling party misunderstands and takes it too far. Some people get it, some don't. That's ok. But if you feel like an outsider, it's probably because you don't understand hazing and its role in human interaction. People who are extra sensitive, or particularly introverted, tend not to understand the ritual. I didn't understand it very well back in highschool, and almost got the crap kicked out of me because the way I reacted to it. I finally got it figured out, mostly, in boot camp. Learning to haze is a good exercise in learning to stand up for yourself in a way that won't get you shunned from the group. If you don't care about belonging, that's ok too. [/QUOTE]
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