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<blockquote data-quote="The Other Side" data-source="post: 1602676" data-attributes="member: 17969"><p>Sometimes a the toughest decision involves undoing the toughest decision. Getting married is a tough thing to get through, but with love it gets easier. Getting divorced comes with no love, a lot of hate and dysfunction.</p><p></p><p>I appreciate your understanding of my underlying point.</p><p></p><p>Reflection isnt a good pill to swallow, but looking at something with a clear view when relevant makes a decision that much easier.</p><p></p><p>Nobody wants to talk someone out of their marriage, but we all know a person in this kind of situation. It matters not male or female, the circumstances are all the same.</p><p></p><p>A growing disconnect cannot be solved by prayer or fingers crossed.</p><p></p><p>My advice is based purely on a financial position. As you pointed out, the extreme cost to wait it out can take a huge bite out of your future.</p><p></p><p>If the poster and his wife are on a collision course with separation, better to be open about it now, discuss it frankly before either one invests any deeper.</p><p></p><p>As was pointed out, there is always someone out there looking for a hard working man or woman, someone who will greet them no matter what time it is or how upset they are, or where they work.</p><p></p><p>A team is a team until one of the players finds the M.E. in tEaM.</p><p></p><p>At that point, if there is an affair involved, or the begining of an affair, things will never recover. </p><p></p><p>A good sit down and open discussion is better than spending hours dealing with attorneys dividing possessions and your pension and salary somewhere down the road.</p><p></p><p>I feel bad for anyone stuck in this situation. We can all have that feel good moment where we tell them to stick it out and pray for the best, but this is 2015 and not 1950 anymore.</p><p></p><p>Times have changed and its too easy to get divorced and half the stuff.</p><p></p><p>Better to cut the losses early before the losses cut you into half a man.</p><p></p><p>TOS.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="The Other Side, post: 1602676, member: 17969"] Sometimes a the toughest decision involves undoing the toughest decision. Getting married is a tough thing to get through, but with love it gets easier. Getting divorced comes with no love, a lot of hate and dysfunction. I appreciate your understanding of my underlying point. Reflection isnt a good pill to swallow, but looking at something with a clear view when relevant makes a decision that much easier. Nobody wants to talk someone out of their marriage, but we all know a person in this kind of situation. It matters not male or female, the circumstances are all the same. A growing disconnect cannot be solved by prayer or fingers crossed. My advice is based purely on a financial position. As you pointed out, the extreme cost to wait it out can take a huge bite out of your future. If the poster and his wife are on a collision course with separation, better to be open about it now, discuss it frankly before either one invests any deeper. As was pointed out, there is always someone out there looking for a hard working man or woman, someone who will greet them no matter what time it is or how upset they are, or where they work. A team is a team until one of the players finds the M.E. in tEaM. At that point, if there is an affair involved, or the begining of an affair, things will never recover. A good sit down and open discussion is better than spending hours dealing with attorneys dividing possessions and your pension and salary somewhere down the road. I feel bad for anyone stuck in this situation. We can all have that feel good moment where we tell them to stick it out and pray for the best, but this is 2015 and not 1950 anymore. Times have changed and its too easy to get divorced and half the stuff. Better to cut the losses early before the losses cut you into half a man. TOS. [/QUOTE]
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