Yeah Mental disability ( getting a govt check) first takes a Doctor giving you an exam and sending you to a Psychiatrist to deem you Mentally disabled.. Then you will need to apply to Social Security for the benefit (usually denied) at least three times (usually every time denied) then get an attorney that specializes in getting social security benefits.. That can take at least one year if not two...We all know UPS does not give a crap about us, so I would take a personal holiday or vacation day and go see your Doctor.. Explain the situation, take with you the FMLA packet available under MYLIFE on upsers.com.. If the doctor feels it may be necessary for you to have a day here and there to collect yourself, then they will fill out the papers.. Fax them to the number provided on the paperwork.. It will take a few weeks to get processed.. If approved, take a day when you need it... I do agree that keeping yourself busy during this very difficult time is the best, but on the other hand I also know that sometimes life get overwhelming, especially with your situation.. I would do that to protect yourself and your job.. I know my center manager would just make thing worse for me, ( his comment during a meeting " I don't care about your personal problems) maybe your center manager is different. You can tell him of your situation, and that you are applying for FMLA because of personal reasons (dont tell him anything about your "mental" wellness or lack thereof. ) That is what I would do.. I apply for FMLA every year, just incase it is needed for myself. I would suggest any UPSer who has a bully of a center manager or Sup to apply for this just incase.. If they are harassing you, for any reason, take a FMLA day... You call the FMLA number, give them your case number, they ask how many hours you will be out, if full time you tell them 8, they say ok thank you.. You then call your center and tell them you are taking a FMLA day.. There is nothing they can do.. My center manager put me thru the ringer trying to get me to loose my temper, and threatening to fire me on the spot. I was granted FMLA so on a friday with 7 people out of work, personals and vacation I called in, they had to get a contract carrier in July to pull my loads.. Anyway, do it to protect your job, and also as suggested in another post, get an Attorney (a good one !) Sorry for what your going thru, divorce rates are very high for us.. In the future if you meet a nice lady, just live with her.. Don't get remarried, it is just not worth it..