I have 5 daughters aged 19, 13,8,7,6. I was a very bad boy growing up, so I'm feeling as though this could be a very karmatic experience. My eldest is unmarried and pregnant (due August 14th) and currently living with the unborn childs father. We are currently not speaking and haven't spoken since around April, I guess. Long story short is she said some really nasty things to me after she left home and then she expected me to step up and fund her life.
I refused, because I believe if you make that bed, you must also sleep in that bed, but that's just me. My wife, who is not her Mom, keeps in touch with her but doesn't give me the details, as I don't want them. My wife knows where I stand on this issue and is understanding toward both my daughter and me. I never thought things would turn out this way, but I guess you can only give so many pushes on the swing and so many talks to and leave them to make the choices that they make.
Was it my mistake that caused this whole situation? I don't think it was, though my lifestyle and choices don't paint the best picture of me. I'm not saying that my eldest daughter is bad, by any means. I'm just saying that she's made and is making choices that I don't agree with. I'm the best Dad that I know how to be, so I'll just keep loving and teaching my girls and we'll see what happens. I don't know if I would have been as good a Dad if I had sons.
My 13 year old isn't interested in boys yet, or so she says. I ask her about them and she says they act weird, so I'm guessing by High School she'll get the bug. I totally understand why she says they act weird, when you see them dressing in those too tight jeans or the ones that are falling off of the butt. We laugh together when talking about this because we're like, how does anybody run anymore?