Gay ex-marine waitress stiffed on tip by family offended by ‘lifestyle’ - NY Daily News The writing on the receipt, which may be hard to read, says "I'm sorry but I cannot tip because I do not agree with your lifestyle and how you live your life." The waitress, who's name is Dayna, knew there may be an issue when she introduced herself to the patrons, who she said expected that her/his name would be Dan. The diners never said a word throughout their meal and, when they were given their bill, the mother took that opportunity to express her feelings. Coward. To answer my question----no, the tip should not be based on the waitperson's sexual orientation or lifestyle. If this makes you uncomfortable, you should simply ask for a different server or, better yet, order take-out and stay home. You don't let someone bust their ass knowing full well you have no intention of tipping them for their efforts.