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<blockquote data-quote="Divorce Sucks" data-source="post: 5100979" data-attributes="member: 96731"><p>Divorce sucks. I loved my UPS'er, the brutality of the workdays left little of him after work, and the hyped day led to hyped evenings and weekends. He could never really stop the freight train of the working hours. I always got how exhausted and frustrated he was, kept me waiting for a better day for years. I knew core him was a very good man. Living under that stress really smashed my self esteem, his anger was always there, and after a while it was hard not to have a wall up when he was home, protective and defensive, waiting for the next angry minute, hour, week. </p><p></p><p>At pandemic, all broke loose, sparing details, insistence for therapy was met with divorce papers. I still don't think he understood that once a divorce is initiated, It takes on a life of it's own. Very little chance to stop divorce once papers are filed. I will always be sad that my lifelong friend became so different, distant, angry, spiteful. At 60 it's doubtful either of <u>us will find a lifelong partner, there for the good and the bad days. 2 years of lawyers, wasted court time, and finally divorce and settlement, The cost was huge, My grandchildren lost the only grandpa they knew, my mom died in my home, on hospice, during the divorce process. She never understood it, she loved him, too. </u></p><p><u></u></p><p><u>Man, therapy would have been cheaper and likely wouldn't have shaved years from both of our lifespans. If you can make it work, do it, or at least try. Promise, the grass may seem greener somewhere else, but once the marriage is hopelessly gone in divorce and tens of thousands of dollars wasted, that green grass will be brown, and possibly sad and lonely. UPS does exact a toll, if te job can be left at work, if the people in our lives matter first, what comes from that can ease the nastiest day out alone it a brown truck in dangerous heat or cold. No amount of settlement would replace my husband, no amount of money will replace the loss of what was and could possibly again, have been a good marriage. </u></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Divorce Sucks, post: 5100979, member: 96731"] Divorce sucks. I loved my UPS'er, the brutality of the workdays left little of him after work, and the hyped day led to hyped evenings and weekends. He could never really stop the freight train of the working hours. I always got how exhausted and frustrated he was, kept me waiting for a better day for years. I knew core him was a very good man. Living under that stress really smashed my self esteem, his anger was always there, and after a while it was hard not to have a wall up when he was home, protective and defensive, waiting for the next angry minute, hour, week. At pandemic, all broke loose, sparing details, insistence for therapy was met with divorce papers. I still don't think he understood that once a divorce is initiated, It takes on a life of it's own. Very little chance to stop divorce once papers are filed. I will always be sad that my lifelong friend became so different, distant, angry, spiteful. At 60 it's doubtful either of [U]us will find a lifelong partner, there for the good and the bad days. 2 years of lawyers, wasted court time, and finally divorce and settlement, The cost was huge, My grandchildren lost the only grandpa they knew, my mom died in my home, on hospice, during the divorce process. She never understood it, she loved him, too. Man, therapy would have been cheaper and likely wouldn't have shaved years from both of our lifespans. If you can make it work, do it, or at least try. Promise, the grass may seem greener somewhere else, but once the marriage is hopelessly gone in divorce and tens of thousands of dollars wasted, that green grass will be brown, and possibly sad and lonely. UPS does exact a toll, if te job can be left at work, if the people in our lives matter first, what comes from that can ease the nastiest day out alone it a brown truck in dangerous heat or cold. No amount of settlement would replace my husband, no amount of money will replace the loss of what was and could possibly again, have been a good marriage. [/U] [/QUOTE]
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