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<blockquote data-quote="soberups" data-source="post: 842849" data-attributes="member: 14668"><p>"Allowing their plan to fail" is the part that is <em>always</em> the hardest for me.</p><p> </p><p>I understand the need for it. You can think of it as "tough love" or "not being an enabler" and it is absolutely necessary to do, but it runs counter to my basic instinct to do the best job that I possibly can. Try as I might, I <em>still</em> find myself occasionally "bending" the rules or jumping thru hoops I shouldnt have to jump thru in order to minimize the consequences of my dispatch team's chronic incompetence.</p><p> </p><p>Its sort of like dealing with a chronic alcoholic...which is something I have personal experience with. You come home and <em>once again</em> they are passed out on the floor next to a puddle of their own vomit, and your instinct is to <em>once again</em> mop up the puke and clean up the mess they have made and tuck them into bed next to a glass of water and some aspirin. But what you <em>have</em> to do instead...is to walk away and allow them to lie on that floor and wake up with dried puke in their hair, 2 hours late for work with a sickening hangover. Once they get tired enough of the <em>natural consequences</em> of their choices, they will (hopefully) start making different ones. Or maybe they wont. But nothing will <em>ever</em> change if you keep enabling.</p><p> </p><p>Thats why they call it "tough love", because its just as tough on the person <em>giving</em> it as it is on the one <em>receiving</em> it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="soberups, post: 842849, member: 14668"] "Allowing their plan to fail" is the part that is [I]always[/I] the hardest for me. I understand the need for it. You can think of it as "tough love" or "not being an enabler" and it is absolutely necessary to do, but it runs counter to my basic instinct to do the best job that I possibly can. Try as I might, I [I]still[/I] find myself occasionally "bending" the rules or jumping thru hoops I shouldnt have to jump thru in order to minimize the consequences of my dispatch team's chronic incompetence. Its sort of like dealing with a chronic alcoholic...which is something I have personal experience with. You come home and [I]once again[/I] they are passed out on the floor next to a puddle of their own vomit, and your instinct is to [I]once again[/I] mop up the puke and clean up the mess they have made and tuck them into bed next to a glass of water and some aspirin. But what you [I]have[/I] to do instead...is to walk away and allow them to lie on that floor and wake up with dried puke in their hair, 2 hours late for work with a sickening hangover. Once they get tired enough of the [I]natural consequences[/I] of their choices, they will (hopefully) start making different ones. Or maybe they wont. But nothing will [I]ever[/I] change if you keep enabling. Thats why they call it "tough love", because its just as tough on the person [I]giving[/I] it as it is on the one [I]receiving[/I] it. [/QUOTE]
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