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<blockquote data-quote="gingerkat" data-source="post: 1191393" data-attributes="member: 43502"><p>Nicky, I agree with you on so many fronts, but disagree on others. I don't think there is a "recipe" for a good marriage or even staying together, or there would be minimal or no divorces. People don't get married with the intentions of getting divorced, or at least most don't. I think it's just a sign of the times perhaps? Maybe when my grandparents, even parents were married, they stayed married through thick and thin, because that is what they were supposed to do? Even though there was infidelity, abuse, financial issues and so many other problems, it just didn't matter, you stayed married, period. Which is worse? Staying in for the long haul when things are really bad or giving yourself permission to leave and try again if that is what you choose?</p><p></p><p>We all change as we grow older, and thank goodness for that, or we'd be stuck in a non-growth mentality. A good question is how do we find a partner that is open to growth while the relationship continues? Honestly I don't think you can. You can guess and hope, but there are no guarantees. That's why I think marriage is the biggest gamble of your life. </p><p></p><p>I think we live in a world full of "give me, give me" and so much stimuli that maybe none of us really have a chance (minus all of you that are making it - and are genuinely happy). I guess it's easy to blame the other person, but marriage is a 50/50 partnership.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="gingerkat, post: 1191393, member: 43502"] Nicky, I agree with you on so many fronts, but disagree on others. I don't think there is a "recipe" for a good marriage or even staying together, or there would be minimal or no divorces. People don't get married with the intentions of getting divorced, or at least most don't. I think it's just a sign of the times perhaps? Maybe when my grandparents, even parents were married, they stayed married through thick and thin, because that is what they were supposed to do? Even though there was infidelity, abuse, financial issues and so many other problems, it just didn't matter, you stayed married, period. Which is worse? Staying in for the long haul when things are really bad or giving yourself permission to leave and try again if that is what you choose? We all change as we grow older, and thank goodness for that, or we'd be stuck in a non-growth mentality. A good question is how do we find a partner that is open to growth while the relationship continues? Honestly I don't think you can. You can guess and hope, but there are no guarantees. That's why I think marriage is the biggest gamble of your life. I think we live in a world full of "give me, give me" and so much stimuli that maybe none of us really have a chance (minus all of you that are making it - and are genuinely happy). I guess it's easy to blame the other person, but marriage is a 50/50 partnership. [/QUOTE]
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