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<blockquote data-quote="jumpman23" data-source="post: 1191415" data-attributes="member: 40276"><p>Marriage is a big sacrifice. You had better be ready for it when you do it. A lot of people get married way too young. I told myself I would wait til I was 30 before I got married so I could get all my pimpin out of me lol. And it sure was fun before that lol. You definitely cant be a selfish person and expect marriage to work out. It seems a lot of times 1 person is more selfish than the other and that's why it doesn't work out. Its a team effort and you have to be somewhat on the same page about your expectations of the marriage. One thing ive learned as ive gotten older is you really have to pay super close attention to your surroundings because 1 bad move can screw your life up for good. I don't think people nowadays put the total effort into paying attention to everything that's going on in their life and surroundings. Is marriage easy, hell no but you have to work at it together. You have to be willing to endure the highs and lows of marriage. That's where patience and sacrifice come in. When your married you have to put your happiness to the side to make sure your wife and childrens happiness and well being always come first. Ask yourself that question and if your answer is no to that then you don't need to be married or have any children. Ive been married 10 years and its been cool. We were friends first which in my opinion sometimes really helps since you already know a lot about that person. Are there things you do that get on her nerves and vice versa, of course. That person isn't going to do everything you expect them to do or be that's a given. You have to be willing to take their good and bad. Alot of people shouldn't have kids but they do what societies norm tells them to do whether they want to or not, and from family pressure. Do what you want to do not what others expect and want you to do. We don't have any kids and that was by mutual agreement. Kids are cool but they are a lot of responsibility mentally and financially. Often times kids are what break up marriage from stress that 1 or the other cant handle. Me personally enjoy not having any kids, as we can pretty much do what we want whenever we want. If I wanna hang with the fellas I can and if she wants to hang with her gal pals she can. Freedom is highly under rated. Im lucky to have a cool <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/group1/censored2.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":censored2:" title="Censored2 :censored2:" data-shortname=":censored2:" /> wife who likes her time to herself and when we are together. That's where trust comes into play. Alot of couples have it all wrong as they think they have to be stuck up each others ass 24-7, im just like really dude you need to get a life lol. Any way sorry about the book I just wrote, just kickin some bulljive on here. Peace</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="jumpman23, post: 1191415, member: 40276"] Marriage is a big sacrifice. You had better be ready for it when you do it. A lot of people get married way too young. I told myself I would wait til I was 30 before I got married so I could get all my pimpin out of me lol. And it sure was fun before that lol. You definitely cant be a selfish person and expect marriage to work out. It seems a lot of times 1 person is more selfish than the other and that's why it doesn't work out. Its a team effort and you have to be somewhat on the same page about your expectations of the marriage. One thing ive learned as ive gotten older is you really have to pay super close attention to your surroundings because 1 bad move can screw your life up for good. I don't think people nowadays put the total effort into paying attention to everything that's going on in their life and surroundings. Is marriage easy, hell no but you have to work at it together. You have to be willing to endure the highs and lows of marriage. That's where patience and sacrifice come in. When your married you have to put your happiness to the side to make sure your wife and childrens happiness and well being always come first. Ask yourself that question and if your answer is no to that then you don't need to be married or have any children. Ive been married 10 years and its been cool. We were friends first which in my opinion sometimes really helps since you already know a lot about that person. Are there things you do that get on her nerves and vice versa, of course. That person isn't going to do everything you expect them to do or be that's a given. You have to be willing to take their good and bad. Alot of people shouldn't have kids but they do what societies norm tells them to do whether they want to or not, and from family pressure. Do what you want to do not what others expect and want you to do. We don't have any kids and that was by mutual agreement. Kids are cool but they are a lot of responsibility mentally and financially. Often times kids are what break up marriage from stress that 1 or the other cant handle. Me personally enjoy not having any kids, as we can pretty much do what we want whenever we want. If I wanna hang with the fellas I can and if she wants to hang with her gal pals she can. Freedom is highly under rated. Im lucky to have a cool :censored: wife who likes her time to herself and when we are together. That's where trust comes into play. Alot of couples have it all wrong as they think they have to be stuck up each others ass 24-7, im just like really dude you need to get a life lol. Any way sorry about the book I just wrote, just kickin some bulljive on here. Peace [/QUOTE]
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