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<blockquote data-quote="moreluck" data-source="post: 853647" data-attributes="member: 1246"><p>If your kid is 18, he's legal. </p><p></p><p>If he wasn't 18, you can still lock them out as long as you give a name & number of where they can go and stay.(check with Tough Love)</p><p></p><p>Kids can be real a-holes. I think there is usually hope. I wanted to freeze dry my teenagers and then add water at age 26.... because they become so nice and appreciative after that age.</p><p></p><p> I got 2 of my 3 teenagers back. All were lost for awile with drugs and one with the addition of criminal behavior. I got the 2 girls back and both were involved with druggies . Now my youngest is 39 with 10 yrs. in AA. The other girl, my oldest is 43 and she quit drugs cold turkey and left the bum. My son chose to excel in crime and we didn't go down that road. He spent time in prison and we haven't had contact with him for about 15 years. His younger sister talks to him and lets me know about him.</p><p></p><p>We went through the court system in Utah at the time....juvenile. We got to know the judge very well being in front of him with our son all the time. Luckily, in the juvie system, they keep the same judge. The judge began to see that son was a problem and not the parents.</p><p></p><p>It was a long haul and dad gave up on him before I did and that can cause problems in your marriage. Happy to say our 44th anniversary is coming in Sept. I have 2 daughters doing great and a son who ,I hear, is OK. </p><p></p><p>Be a united front in front of your kids or they will work one against the other. I thank goodness that we had great UPS med. coverage that paid for a drug place that was over $65,000.00. It was a 6 mos + stay. </p><p> </p><p>It's your house and as long as they live there they must follow your rules. At 18, they can go somewhere else to live, but don't let them come wash their clothes, that's what laundromats are for. They'll learn pretty quick that it takes a job to survive out there. </p><p></p><p>Good luck, it's not not easy because none of them come with instructions.</p><p></p><p>Oh yeah, you know all those Xmas cards you get from people out of town with those letters in them?? If they say Billy & Bobby are great and got a scholaship to Yale and susie won the spelling bee......they're lying!! Once I started talking about teenagers with problems, the people came out of the woodwork with their own stories. </p><p></p><p>God bless!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="moreluck, post: 853647, member: 1246"] If your kid is 18, he's legal. If he wasn't 18, you can still lock them out as long as you give a name & number of where they can go and stay.(check with Tough Love) Kids can be real a-holes. I think there is usually hope. I wanted to freeze dry my teenagers and then add water at age 26.... because they become so nice and appreciative after that age. I got 2 of my 3 teenagers back. All were lost for awile with drugs and one with the addition of criminal behavior. I got the 2 girls back and both were involved with druggies . Now my youngest is 39 with 10 yrs. in AA. The other girl, my oldest is 43 and she quit drugs cold turkey and left the bum. My son chose to excel in crime and we didn't go down that road. He spent time in prison and we haven't had contact with him for about 15 years. His younger sister talks to him and lets me know about him. We went through the court system in Utah at the time....juvenile. We got to know the judge very well being in front of him with our son all the time. Luckily, in the juvie system, they keep the same judge. The judge began to see that son was a problem and not the parents. It was a long haul and dad gave up on him before I did and that can cause problems in your marriage. Happy to say our 44th anniversary is coming in Sept. I have 2 daughters doing great and a son who ,I hear, is OK. Be a united front in front of your kids or they will work one against the other. I thank goodness that we had great UPS med. coverage that paid for a drug place that was over $65,000.00. It was a 6 mos + stay. It's your house and as long as they live there they must follow your rules. At 18, they can go somewhere else to live, but don't let them come wash their clothes, that's what laundromats are for. They'll learn pretty quick that it takes a job to survive out there. Good luck, it's not not easy because none of them come with instructions. Oh yeah, you know all those Xmas cards you get from people out of town with those letters in them?? If they say Billy & Bobby are great and got a scholaship to Yale and susie won the spelling bee......they're lying!! Once I started talking about teenagers with problems, the people came out of the woodwork with their own stories. God bless! [/QUOTE]
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