I know this is non-UPS, but many of you may have some experience here. As an employee for UPS, I feel I can "expose" myself here. Trust me, I am seeking advice far and wide, and searching my own soul. Please, be kind and offer your thoughts, thoughtfully and respectfully. My son, who turned 18 some months ago, bitched out his mother a few days ago while I was at work because of a substantive legal issue he needed to resolve. He summarily said no and proceeded to eff this and eff that, all the while saying mom and dad were worthless. His mother said you cannot talk to me like that, under any circumstance and told him to get out. He packed a bag and left and has been gone about a week. Now, I was not there and cannot ascertain exactly what was said, I just hear a human recollection. I have not seen or spoke to the boy/man after this happened. I do know, this is out of character from a kid who held down a 20 hour a week job throughout his senior year and graduated with a 3.5 GPA and has been accepted to state college. Details aside, no man/woman is worth their salt speaking this way to the woman who gave them life, not to mention speaking to my wife this way. If he comes to his senses, and comes home with his hat in his hand, I would consider a second chance with ZERO tolerance. My respect for my son has been damaged considerably and perhaps will never be completely the same. ApPARENTly, kids have the upper hand here as they are technically tenants and the law forbids you to "kick" them out and change the locks. "YOU" would be in violation of the law, just keep that information close to the vest. Stuff like that would just empower them. You must give them a date and evict them, 30 days in writing. I guess what I am asking is ... What would you do?