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<blockquote data-quote="JJinVA" data-source="post: 4474773" data-attributes="member: 80301"><p>Unfortunately, molestation isnt a rare thing. There are 100's of millions of people if not more who have experienced that. And though you may be right that it definitely DEFINITELY has a psyche impact, I'm not convinced its lifelong trauma unless the individual chooses to dwell on it. I dated a girl who was molested by her granddad at gunpoint who seemed to have a really difficult time finding some sexual balance. And my childhood neighbor friend was also molested by her dad, but she grew up, has a family of her own now, and when she introduced her kids to me she said, "This is 'JJinVA', he really helped me get through some difficult times when I was your age". </p><p></p><p>The worst part about trauma is, re-living it over and over again. But I really do believe no matter how horrific, its a choice to be (and stay) resentful. It almost puts the abuser back in control even from beyond the grave. Ive got plenty of my own stories of childhood abuse but at some point I had to say to myself, "I'm in control of my own life now, not them", forgive them, and move forward without them. Best decision I ever made.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JJinVA, post: 4474773, member: 80301"] Unfortunately, molestation isnt a rare thing. There are 100's of millions of people if not more who have experienced that. And though you may be right that it definitely DEFINITELY has a psyche impact, I'm not convinced its lifelong trauma unless the individual chooses to dwell on it. I dated a girl who was molested by her granddad at gunpoint who seemed to have a really difficult time finding some sexual balance. And my childhood neighbor friend was also molested by her dad, but she grew up, has a family of her own now, and when she introduced her kids to me she said, "This is 'JJinVA', he really helped me get through some difficult times when I was your age". The worst part about trauma is, re-living it over and over again. But I really do believe no matter how horrific, its a choice to be (and stay) resentful. It almost puts the abuser back in control even from beyond the grave. Ive got plenty of my own stories of childhood abuse but at some point I had to say to myself, "I'm in control of my own life now, not them", forgive them, and move forward without them. Best decision I ever made. [/QUOTE]
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