in need of some honest opinions and experiences

[Forty6and2]

wow- thank you for the help everyone. i can't believe how many people are actually helping out on this post.

 

[toonertoo]

Yes all great posts and its a win win and the only way when you work together.
Having a child cook is so cool. I remember the good old days when mine cooked for me, and tonight I had ribs cooked by my son, awesome.....
Picking up the slack, shows you work together. When Im down my husband senses it and picks up mine, when hes down I do it all also, he can cook and clean, and I can plow snow, or change the oil and its the only way it works. I think trying to divide things down the middle would be sheer horror.
What I was mainly speaking of is some of the guys I work with, get home and since their wife has been alone all day with the kids, suddenly he comes home to a second job, and while yes he should help out, it should not be his job to cook, clean, go to the store, at least not daily. And several I will call wussed out men, think that they should have to do it. Her job should not end just coz he gets home. After all he/she probaly hasnt had a minute alone all day either. And I just dont agree, thats all. Time alone, yes a wonderful thing. Reality, probably not. I kind of gave up that right when I had children. And I knew that.

 

[dilligaf]

I am fortunate in that my hubby also will help around the house. I am teaching him to cook and he is great at doing dishes. I won't let him do laundry, but if asked he would. He goes to the store every MON after he gets done with work. We are fortunate in that we both drive professionally so we both know what its like. He is home every nite but in bed by the time I get home, and gone before I get up. So, except on the rare occasion, we only see each other on the week ends.

We talk on the phone several times a day and we always communicate on plans for the weekends. We enjoy doing the same things and enjoy being with each other so what ever plans we make are beneficial to both of us. We might spend the weekend in the garage working on vehicles (Tooner, I too get in there and do as much he does, maybe tearing an engine aprt or changing oil. LOL) or right now we are working on adding on a Master Bath and Laundry room.

The big thing is, we enjoy being with each other. We like going and doing things but we also like staying home and watching the grass grow.

 

[moreluck]

No mention yet of us lazy retirees.....hubby in his office at one end of the house and me at the desk off my kitchen at the opposite end and we e-mail each other...."lunch is ready" and "are you ready to go to the store?"

Hey, it beats yelling back & forth....no intercom here.

 

[mattwtrs]

No mention yet of us lazy retirees.....hubby in his office at one end of the house and me at the desk off my kitchen at the opposite end and we e-mail each other...."lunch is ready" and "are you ready to go to the store?"

Hey, it beats yelling back & forth....no intercom here.

Now that's what I call communication! It's funny how the printed word is usually so much more to the point versus verbal conversation!

 

[dilligaf]

No mention yet of us lazy retirees.....hubby in his office at one end of the house and me at the desk off my kitchen at the opposite end and we e-mail each other...."lunch is ready" and "are you ready to go to the store?"

Hey, it beats yelling back & forth....no intercom here.

That's funny, Moreluck. We have friends that each have there own computers in one of their spare rooms. Their chairs hit each other. Yet they e'mail each other constantly. It slays my husband. He thinks that is just crazy.

 

[rod]

That's funny, Moreluck. We have friends that each have there own computers in one of their spare rooms. Their chairs hit each other. Yet they e'mail each other constantly. It slays my husband. He thinks that is just crazy.

His "crazy time " will come. Leaving messages for each other or for yourself , wether via computer or sticky notes, is all a part of getting older. I used to laugh at my Dad and all his notes he left for himself but now guess whos constantly leaving notes for every little thing. I swear sometimes I should leave myself a note to remind myself to check my notes.

 

[dilligaf]

His "crazy time " will come. Leaving messages for each other or for yourself , wether via computer or sticky notes, is all a part of getting older. I used to laugh at my Dad and all his notes he left for himself but now guess whos constantly leaving notes for every little thing. I swear sometimes I should leave myself a note to remind myself to check my notes.

LOL He doesn't leave notes for himself yet, except the shopping list and his dispatch for the next day. Can't be all that bad as he will be ready to retire in 3 1/2 yrs. He just thinks it is too funny that 2 people who sit right next to each other, send messages to each other and those messages go way out into outer space before they get back to the person sitting right next to ya.

 

[rod]

Be thankful that they can communicate even if it is over the internet. I know a few cases where the husband refuses to learn how to do even basic things on a computer so that leaves the wife doing her thing by herself. Not good.

 

[dilligaf]

Be thankful that they can communicate even if it is over the internet. I know a few cases where the husband refuses to learn how to do even basic things on a computer so that leaves the wife doing her thing by herself. Not good.

Actually that is the case here. He can't even turn on my computer. But it is not all bad. We get e'mails from friends and family and he will pull up a chair and sit next to me and read with me. I show him some of the stuff on BC, especially 'Good Quotes' and some of the other posts and pics. We enjoy the time together. To me, it makes more sense than having 2 comps. If he needs to order something or search for info on something we spend the time together doing it. And I would rather he didn't mess with my comp. He has little patience for technology and I could easily see my comp. going out the window. LOL

 

[rod]

Actually that is the case here. He can't even turn on my computer. But it is not all bad. We get e'mails from friends and family and he will pull up a chair and sit next to me and read with me. I show him some of the stuff on BC, especially 'Good Quotes' and some of the other posts and pics. We enjoy the time together. To me, it makes more sense than having 2 comps. If he needs to order something or search for info on something we spend the time together doing it. And I would rather he didn't mess with my comp. He has little patience for technology and I could easily see my comp. going out the window. LOL

sounds like you've got him just were you want him just kidding--------poor guy--still has to go out and buy his porno

 

[UPS Lifer]

No mention yet of us lazy retirees.....hubby in his office at one end of the house and me at the desk off my kitchen at the opposite end and we e-mail each other...."lunch is ready" and "are you ready to go to the store?"

Hey, it beats yelling back & forth....no intercom here.

I need to get a bigger house so I can hide! My wife sees me on the Brown Cafe and it is all over! I like using email and SMS to communicate....you always have a trail of what was said. It helps with the "senior moments"!!