Stopping to smell the roses.

Discussion in 'Life After Brown' started by toonertoo, Mar 1, 2011.

  1. toonertoo

    toonertoo Most Awesome Dog Staff Member

    Thought I would share a story of how my day went. My air was almost late, and I didnt care. Somehow it got done although it was mathematically impossible by the time I left this guy. To see this elderly man brought to his knees by grief, made me stop and think, and grieve with him.

    A life changing thing happened at work today..
    I delivered medicine to the same guy, for his wife that I have for a while.
    He came outside, and asked me "what do I do with this?" Im already back at my truck and I wave him off and said "Just Go ask Dorothy", he was always a jokester.
    He said "I buried her yesterday", and practically dropped to the sidewalk in tears. I
    jumped out of my truck, and went and held him, I didnt know what to do. Im running way late, I didnt care, for one moment something was more important than any clock. He told me they had been married for 58 yrs, and the sadness in his eyes haunts me still. I said I havent even been alive that long, so I cant imagine your pain, and that I was sorry. And would pray for him.
    There were lots of cars there, but no one came to see where he was. I got him up and back to his door, there was so little I could do. But it is one day Ill never forget. God bless this man. He looks like in his day he was a hell raiser, strong physique for an 80 yr old. And the loss of his wife brought him to his knees.
    Tonight the cars were gone, and the solitary light in his living room told me he was alone, for the first time in decades. So very sad.
  2. moreluck

    moreluck golden ticket member

    I'm glad you were there to care....even for a short time.
  3. DS

    DS Fenderbender

    I hear ya Tooner.I frequent a vet clinic and I saw a man break down about his dog.I can't imagine the feeling of aloneness your friend feels after 58 years.
    It reminds me of that Janis Joplin song where she sings,"Don't it always seem to go,that you don't know what you got till its gone"
    So if you love someone or a lot,show them now because nothing lasts forever.
  4. cheryl

    cheryl I started this. Staff Member

    After my dad had some health issues he often used to say we should stop and smell the roses.

    You are a kind person tooner. You were the right person to be there at such a meaningful time.
  5. curiousbrain

    curiousbrain Well-Known Member

  6. DS

    DS Fenderbender

    Lets not forget that being alive can be kinda cool at times.
    Every silver lining has a cloud if you see it that way.
    Ya gotta stay positive or you're doomed.
    This thread is a reminder to everyone to appreciate what you got.
  7. moreluck

    moreluck golden ticket member

    Having a coffee buddy
    Sharing good times and
    problems and picking up
    the phone to share news.

    We thought alike and
    appreciated the same

    You liked Ford and had
    an Escort. I liked Chevy
    and had a Blazer....both
    of them were bright red!

    You were from the South
    and I was a Yankee, but
    we clicked. You liked my
    spaghetti and I liked
    your red beans & rice.

    It's been 8 months since
    you left and I can't begin
    to tell you the times I've
    thought of calling you....
    But you're gone.

    Miss you, my friend !!
  8. packageguy

    packageguy Well-Known Member

    Toonertoo- you did a great thing that day , taking time out to comfort that gentleman.