Great Thread, lots of questions, answers, opinions, all good.
My only job from the day my wife and I met is UPS, I think that has helped us in the long run.
My wife works an office job, 9-5 type deal and she’s off when our kids are off including summers. We share the chores, but there isn’t a list of who does what, we just do it. I just mopped the kitchen floor so I’m typing this as I wait for the floor to dry. Yesterday she sat on her butt all day, no biggie, I didn’t. By 10:00 AM yesterday I had completed 2 loads of laundry and made a trip to the junkyard. While another load of wash was running I went out in the garage and played with my newly acquired used parts.
Today my wife will probably make the weekly grocery store run and I’ll play outside. By tomorrow morning the house will be clean and all the laundry will be done. Our 12 year old will have dinner ready this evening. Yes, I said 12 year old, she is an awesome cook and don’t even think about changing the channel when Paula Dean is on.
OK, that was a weekend, what about the work days? We kind of do the same thing. Sometimes I’ll wash a load at night before bed. When I get up the stuff goes in the dryer and I get it out before I leave. Other chores can be done the same way, it’s really not that hard. Plus, having kids ages 12 and 15 helps too, they will help out if properly threatened.
I hear folks talk about a marriage being a 50 50 deal, I don’t buy into that at all. I say it’s a 100 100 situation. There will be times that one of you isn’t up to your 50%, that’s when the other person makes up the difference.