Nothingness Fluff ,part 2

[Future]

You can only be there for her, that's all you can do.

I try bro... i try

 

[upschuck]

Tys death is still under investigation

Suspicious?

 

[upschuck]

Milestone Whore.

That was the first one in a long time.

 

[Future]

Suspicious?

Yes ..... thats what makes no closure

 

[IVE GOTTA PACKAGE 4U]

That was the first one in a long time.

Sex?

 

[Future]

No one ever wants to see a Mom in pain like this

 

[upschuck]

Yes ..... thats what makes no closure

Sorry to hear that.

 

[upschuck]

Sex?

Nope, that happens regularly.

 

[IVE GOTTA PACKAGE 4U]

Nope, that happens regularly.

With a partner or by yourself?

 

[BakerMayfield2018]

No one ever wants to see a Mom in pain like this

Found this for you...



Allowing mourners to be in their pain, without trying to make them change how they feel (often to make yourself and said others feel better), would actually be a more compassionate and more Christlike response. Why? Because trying to force a grieving person to feel better is like telling a double amputee to get up and run before she is ready: it’s insensitive, lacks circumspection, and certainly doesn’t even remotely resemble compassion. And Jesus seemed intent on compassion for the weakest amongst... didn’t he? Are we talking about the same guy?

I suspect the psychological responses of the couple to whom you make reference in your book were exacerbated by judging others who, like you, are likely terrified to imagine what it would be like to see your own child’s dead, cold body laying in a casket. I do understand. That is not an image you want in your mind is it, sir.

So, instead of joining them in imagining that horror, one you really can never fathom until it is happening and, even then, the brain does all it can to protect itself from the utter atrocity of the experience, you — and others - -use spiritual bypass to “lift up” — only for many, these pushes toward premature healing don’t lift up grieving parents — they tear down and alienate and ostracize those who most need comfort and solidarity.

By joining them in the abyss, rather than “lifting them (forcibly) up,” they see that others have stood by them, borne witness to their suffering, not averted their gaze, have offered their nonjudgmental heart and compassion, slowly, ever so slowly, integration comes.

No, they do not “like the attention.” No, they are not slathering in what you call “self-pity.” Their child is dead.

 

[upschuck]

With a partner or by yourself?

With my lovely wife, you scumbag.

 

[IVE GOTTA PACKAGE 4U]

With my lovely wife, you scumbag.

Was she awake?























It still counts if she was sleeping

 

[BakerMayfield2018]

Was she awake?























It still counts if she was sleeping

Better that way, less complaining......

 

[Future]

Found this for you...



Allowing mourners to be in their pain, without trying to make them change how they feel (often to make yourself and said others feel better), would actually be a more compassionate and more Christlike response. Why? Because trying to force a grieving person to feel better is like telling a double amputee to get up and run before she is ready: it’s insensitive, lacks circumspection, and certainly doesn’t even remotely resemble compassion. And Jesus seemed intent on compassion for the weakest amongst... didn’t he? Are we talking about the same guy?

I suspect the psychological responses of the couple to whom you make reference in your book were exacerbated by judging others who, like you, are likely terrified to imagine what it would be like to see your own child’s dead, cold body laying in a casket. I do understand. That is not an image you want in your mind is it, sir.

So, instead of joining them in imagining that horror, one you really can never fathom until it is happening and, even then, the brain does all it can to protect itself from the utter atrocity of the experience, you — and others - -use spiritual bypass to “lift up” — only for many, these pushes toward premature healing don’t lift up grieving parents — they tear down and alienate and ostracize those who most need comfort and solidarity.

By joining them in the abyss, rather than “lifting them (forcibly) up,” they see that others have stood by them, borne witness to their suffering, not averted their gaze, have offered their nonjudgmental heart and compassion, slowly, ever so slowly, integration comes.

No, they do not “like the attention.” No, they are not slathering in what you call “self-pity.” Their child is dead.

Bro i Know death ....she is on the phone with her sis inlaw .... ....weeping ..... and re living it .....i am in the basement

 

[IVE GOTTA PACKAGE 4U]

Better that way, less complaining......

What's the best part of a BJ?



















The five minutes of silence...

 

[upschuck]

Was she awake?























It still counts if she was sleeping

Yes. Sometimes she does have some good dreams, that I am the beneficiary of.

 

[Future]

What's the best part of a BJ?



















The five minutes of silence...

what did the bride say on her wedding Day?

 

[BakerMayfield2018]

Bro i Know death ....she is on the phone with her sis inlaw .... ....weeping ..... and re living it .....i am in the basement

Got any beer down there??? Turn the radio on or the tv up and have a beer or 6 ....

 

[IVE GOTTA PACKAGE 4U]

what did the bride say on her wedding Day?

I'm done doing that...

 

[Future]

Got any beer down there??? Turn the radio on or the tv up and have a beer or 6 ....

i get that....but i feel helpless ...want to help her ... and i know i cant