A driver in my building killed himself last night. He had 28 years in, and was probably the last person on earth you would ever think would do something like this. I can't imagine what was going on in his head to make him think that was the only way out. He was a really great guy and a heck of a shop steward. A lot of us in the Dulles division are going to miss him.
A real shame
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Sorry Jones.
I had a similar experience when a co-worker of mine did the same thing.
It devastated me for weeks.
As in your case, I never saw it coming. As 555 said - it's not understandable ... but it is what it is.
My prayers and thoughts go out to you and your friend's family.
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ajblakejr
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That is a hard one. I had a coworker hang himself 1/2002.
It hit us hard. We spent the first month in shock. Then we spent the next few monthes examining all of our interactions with him.
Our gut reaction was to honor him....then it hit us..you don't honor suicide. Our emotion became anger and how selfish our coworker was to his family.
His five year old found him in the garage on a Sunday after church.
As cruel has this sounds, but you may understand it some day....we wished he would have hung himself in the rear of his straight truck at work.
Someone other than his son could have found him.
Blessings to you and all your coworkers.
It hit us hard. We spent the first month in shock. Then we spent the next few monthes examining all of our interactions with him.
Our gut reaction was to honor him....then it hit us..you don't honor suicide. Our emotion became anger and how selfish our coworker was to his family.
His five year old found him in the garage on a Sunday after church.
As cruel has this sounds, but you may understand it some day....we wished he would have hung himself in the rear of his straight truck at work.
Someone other than his son could have found him.
Blessings to you and all your coworkers.
As sad as that is I have no respect for that at all. That is the most selfish act a human could do. I'd pray for his family and friends...and you if needed, but that's it. I also do not like that UPS lowered the flag to half staff on his behalf. I liked the guy fine, but we have hero's that went to war and died that did not get that respect. He doesn't deserve that...period.
John19841
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The title of this thread is "A Real Shame" I think you're confusing respect and pity. Just because you feel sorry for someone, their family and that you don't know what to make of it, doesn't mean that the act garnered respect.
fair enough. it is a shame
Livin the Dream?
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stevetheupsguy
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Sometimes there are just no words to say................................I feel for you Jones.
There is no way to explain suicide. I had a cousin who did it and the way it devastated the family was intolerable.
Im sorry for those who cared for him and those he left behind.
Someone has to be in severe, unbearable pain, to inflict this kind of pain on those that loved him. Sometimes there are signs, those you can help. When there are no signs, no one is to blame.
Rip and blessings to his family and friends.
Im sorry for those who cared for him and those he left behind.
Someone has to be in severe, unbearable pain, to inflict this kind of pain on those that loved him. Sometimes there are signs, those you can help. When there are no signs, no one is to blame.
Rip and blessings to his family and friends.
trplnkl
555
I used to feel the same way as you Billy, but I have learned a few things in the last couple of years that never occurred to me before. I'm willing to bet that like me, you have never had real depression. I'm not talking about being sad, or mad or unhappy. I'm mean really depressed. When someone becomes clinically depressed there is a chemical change in the brain that lowers the natural feelings of happiness and actually controls the brain to not allow anything but emotional lows. There are many other aspects of depression that I don't know or understand but they are real and the person inflicted has little control.
One problem with clinical depression is it takes away all the energy one has to rationalize and see a way out of their troubles. Some would commit suicide but they don't even have enough energy to do it. Then sometimes they go on meds, get a little better and they gain the energy.
Like I said, I USED to feel the same way you do.
Braveheart
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Blessings and prayers.
I so understand what you are saying. Clinical depression is way different than being depressed over a depressing thing. I saw my sister, mother and brothers fight with it. Knock on wood, I didnt "get" it. I used to tell my sis, "go for a walk, get some exercise" not until later did I realize that only works for some types of depression, not all.
There are good meds out there now, not so in my Moms era. The best life she had was when she got on one that worked with no side effects and then it was too late.
People will take pills for their heart, their bp, their allergies, but its hard for people to seek help with the most important organ they have, and that is the brain. Im glad it is being recognized as years ago, mental health issues were a prison sentence.
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