UpstateNYUPSer(Ret)
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This should be interesting.
Do you feel like a good father?
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This should be interesting.
Jackburton
Gone Fish'n
Oh yeah, I forgot her PT job of servicing me, thanks for the reminder.
You've Got Mail
Well-Known Member
I have the perfect song for you...
My child arrived just the other day
He came to the world in the usual way
But there were planes to catch and bills to pay
He learned to walk while I was away
And he was talkin' 'fore I knew it, and as he grew
He'd say "I'm gonna be like you, Dad
You know I'm gonna be like you"
And the cat's in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man on the moon
When you comin' home, Dad
I don't know when, but we'll get together then
You know we'll have a good time then
My son turned ten just the other day
He said, "Thanks for the ball, Dad, come on let's play
can you teach me to throw", I said "Not today
I got a lot to do", he said, "That's ok
And he walked away but his smile never dimmed
And said, "I'm gonna be like him, yeah
You know I'm gonna be like him"
And the cat's in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man on the moon
When you comin' home, Dad
I don't know when, but we'll get together then
You know we'll have a good time then
Well, he came from college just the other day
So much like a man I just had to say
"Son, I'm proud of you, can you sit for a while"
He shook his head and said with a smile
"What I'd really like, Dad, is to borrow the car keys
See you later, can I have them please"
And the cat's in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man on the moon
When you comin' home son
I don't know when, but we'll get together then, Dad
You know we'll have a good time then
I've long since retired, my son's moved away
I called him up just the other day
I said, "I'd like to see you if you don't mind"
He said, "I'd love to, Dad, if I can find the time
You see my new job's a hassle and kids have the flu
But it's sure nice talking to you, Dad
It's been sure nice talking to you"
And as I hung up the phone it occurred to me
He'd grown up just like me
My boy was just like me
And the cat's in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man in the moon
When you comin' home son
I don't know when, but we'll get together then, Dad
We're gonna have a good time then
My child arrived just the other day
He came to the world in the usual way
But there were planes to catch and bills to pay
He learned to walk while I was away
And he was talkin' 'fore I knew it, and as he grew
He'd say "I'm gonna be like you, Dad
You know I'm gonna be like you"
And the cat's in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man on the moon
When you comin' home, Dad
I don't know when, but we'll get together then
You know we'll have a good time then
My son turned ten just the other day
He said, "Thanks for the ball, Dad, come on let's play
can you teach me to throw", I said "Not today
I got a lot to do", he said, "That's ok
And he walked away but his smile never dimmed
And said, "I'm gonna be like him, yeah
You know I'm gonna be like him"
And the cat's in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man on the moon
When you comin' home, Dad
I don't know when, but we'll get together then
You know we'll have a good time then
Well, he came from college just the other day
So much like a man I just had to say
"Son, I'm proud of you, can you sit for a while"
He shook his head and said with a smile
"What I'd really like, Dad, is to borrow the car keys
See you later, can I have them please"
And the cat's in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man on the moon
When you comin' home son
I don't know when, but we'll get together then, Dad
You know we'll have a good time then
I've long since retired, my son's moved away
I called him up just the other day
I said, "I'd like to see you if you don't mind"
He said, "I'd love to, Dad, if I can find the time
You see my new job's a hassle and kids have the flu
But it's sure nice talking to you, Dad
It's been sure nice talking to you"
And as I hung up the phone it occurred to me
He'd grown up just like me
My boy was just like me
And the cat's in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man in the moon
When you comin' home son
I don't know when, but we'll get together then, Dad
We're gonna have a good time then
Jackburton
Gone Fish'n
Thanks for the lyrics, I never would have understood the post without them. You've totally changed my mind. I'm quitting UPS and getting a job at a bank making 10bucks a hour.
I'll tell my daughter and son they'll have to get a 80k student loan at 6% interest. Ill tell them they'll need to get jobs while in high school to pay for their own car instead of focusing on grades which is their current job. I'll also inform them I'll need them to get a real good job so I can move into their house when I'm retired because UPS pension just got cut and I couldn't save any money because of my new career. I'll also let my wife know she'll need to go to work because the only way to get quality time with children is to go to the most magical place on earth, 3 times a year. Good thing I have NetFlix though, we can watch TV as a family while playing on our iPhones.
You've shown me the light, thanks.
brownmonster
Man of Great Wisdom
my kids refer to me as "not the mom".
Operational needs
Virescit Vulnere Virtus
My mother was a stay at home mom for a while. My siblings and I were always closer to our dad though because when he wasn't working, he was very much involved with us. My mother was just there, usually with her nose in a book.
As VonDutch said, it's the quality that kids remember, not the quantity. Choose your free time wisely, because they will only be young once.
As VonDutch said, it's the quality that kids remember, not the quantity. Choose your free time wisely, because they will only be young once.
clean hairy
Well-Known Member
The song is "cats in the cradle" by Harry Chapin.
It can be found on youtube, and makes quite an imapct to hear it as opposed to just reading the lyrics.
It can be found on youtube, and makes quite an imapct to hear it as opposed to just reading the lyrics.
brown metal coffin
Well-Known Member
I struggle with the same thing sometimes but this job can afford you better long term provision for your family in the way of health care (real good health care) a very nice wage, a pension, good 401k, stock discount, etc... Truly for every $1 that you get UPS for they work you $1.50 for sure and I know that money can't buy happiness but it is darn necessary in this day and age. If you really care about your family; provision should be high on the list and then when you are not working make that time with your family quality.
The children will remember that you worked hard to provide for them and it may even set the tone for work ethic in your household. They will also remember that when Dad wasn't working we had a great time and he invested in us although he was weary. This is only my opinion and I realize that every home isn't the same. This is just what works for me.
Also, I know as sure as the sky is blue that I have missed some events and even shed tears over it but I have made a lot of events as well. Use the system to your advantage with; 8 hour requests, 9.5 grievances, scheduled days off and vacations. Schedule those tools around the times that your family is available or have something going on like school plays, school vacations or sporting events if they participate in those activities... Just my 2 cents.
The children will remember that you worked hard to provide for them and it may even set the tone for work ethic in your household. They will also remember that when Dad wasn't working we had a great time and he invested in us although he was weary. This is only my opinion and I realize that every home isn't the same. This is just what works for me.
Also, I know as sure as the sky is blue that I have missed some events and even shed tears over it but I have made a lot of events as well. Use the system to your advantage with; 8 hour requests, 9.5 grievances, scheduled days off and vacations. Schedule those tools around the times that your family is available or have something going on like school plays, school vacations or sporting events if they participate in those activities... Just my 2 cents.
Jackburton
Gone Fish'n
I don't base my life decisions based on emotion or a song, I'm an adult.
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I used to question whether or not i was a good dad do to the amount of hours i work. Im still preload, cover drive when needed and work a fulltime job, so often times i work all 7 days. The wife and kid are understanding. She is a stay at home mom so otherwise she couldnt be. When i am able to drive full time i will actually have more time with them than i currently do.
I used to question whether or not i was a good dad do to the amount of hours i work. Im still preload, cover drive when needed and work a fulltime job, so often times i work all 7 days. The wife and kid are understanding. She is a stay at home mom so otherwise she couldnt be. When i am able to drive full time i will actually have more time with them than i currently do.
bleedinbrown58
That’s Craptacular
My father worked a lot when I was a kid...and he worked evenings so there were plenty of weeks when we'd only see him awake on the weekends. He always tried to make time for us....and earned enough so my mother didn't have to work. I remember how proud he was when I graduated from college and at my brother's graduation from boot camp. He did the best he could with the time he had....that's all you can ask of anyone.
You've Got Mail
Well-Known Member
It's pretty rare for the wife not to work nowadays, unless the married couple is over the age of say, 40 or 50? Most wives in their 20s or 30s have to work these days.
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Leave the gun,take the cannoli
My father worked at ups for almost 30yrs.....you think he would've said somethin....
bleedinbrown58
That’s Craptacular
at least you knew enough to stay away from the dark side!
STFXG
Well-Known Member
My wife would go nuts being a stay at home. She has the option, but wouldn't enjoy it.
Kicked Your Dog
25 Year UPSer/SoCal Feeder
A man has to do, what a man has to do. For me, that means working hard 5 days a week and providing for my family. Sometimes that means many weeks of late nights and fatigue. But, the reward is seeing my children excel at school and providing enough to afford for my wife to stay home and nurture them. It's old fashioned and doesn't lead to fancy toys, but as a father, I will never regret the opportunity to work for THEM. I've always had respect for the real men and women that try to do the same. Being a good father isn't glamorous, but your kids will love you for your sacrifice.
Operational needs
Virescit Vulnere Virtus
I wish I had had the option. When I think of the potential of my children and how it could have been expanded upon if I had been able to be home with them, it makes me sad. But..... Gotta do what ya gotta do. Considering I work all the time, they're pretty awesome.
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You've Got Mail
Well-Known Member
There was another time in history where fathers didn't spend much time with their kids. It was called slavery.
undies
Well-Known Member
Some of these posts had me tear up a bit. Good to know the struggle is real and I'm not the only person that worries. In the end I really do try to make the most of the time we have together. My daughter is only 9 months now, but I do my damnedest to make her laugh and smile every chance I get.
She will be full grown ,before you know it. Make the most of it,Daddy.
