brownmonster
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My wife and I worked full time our while marriage. Kids seem ok. This time next year they'll be a Teacher a Nurse and an Engineer.
Do you feel like a good father?
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I'm sure there have been plenty of times in history where fathers didn't spend a lot of time with their children. First thing that comes to mind, is the fathers who are at war......
HardknocksUPSer
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Quality time teaching your kids how and what a parent should be far exceeds all of the lost quantity time some kids recieve, even when your kids are grown they'll still remember how hard you worked for them and they will realize how much you really cared for them by trying to give them a good life, I'm only 19 and don't have kids but I look up to my dad for always putting food on the table and a roof over my head everynight, when I was young I didn't notice how much he done for me when he would work 50-60hr weeks but as Ive gotten older I respect that even though he was an alcoholic he still took care of my mah and my siblings, I still remember those quality times on the rare occasion my dad and I would go fishin on weekends.
bleedinbrown58
That’s Craptacular
Do you have anything to add besides song lyrics and "facts"....and I use that term loosely?
Jackburton
Gone Fish'n
No, it was called providing. Unfortunately nowadays some kids call the government their daddies because we have boys not being men.
clean hairy
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All we can do as Prents is to try and raise the Children to have solid values, to know right from wrong.
To be encouraging in any venture they may pursue, even if we don't feel it is right for them.
To be able to catch them when they fall, and to always be ther for them, when the first girlfriend or boyfriend breaks up with them and their heart is hurting.
Not to blow our stacks when they wreck the car (it is just a part of being a Parent) knowing the car can be replaced but they can't.
The hope and apprehension of when they move out to spread their wings, and knowing there will still be the phone calls daddy (or Mommy, I love you) knowing they want something, and be willing to help at a moments notice when asked.
In the absence of an instruction book, we do the best we can and treasure all the time we spend with our Children!Guess I am just reminiscing a bit.
To be encouraging in any venture they may pursue, even if we don't feel it is right for them.
To be able to catch them when they fall, and to always be ther for them, when the first girlfriend or boyfriend breaks up with them and their heart is hurting.
Not to blow our stacks when they wreck the car (it is just a part of being a Parent) knowing the car can be replaced but they can't.
The hope and apprehension of when they move out to spread their wings, and knowing there will still be the phone calls daddy (or Mommy, I love you) knowing they want something, and be willing to help at a moments notice when asked.
In the absence of an instruction book, we do the best we can and treasure all the time we spend with our Children!Guess I am just reminiscing a bit.
barnyard
KTM rider
I was a stay at home dad till I went FT at UPS. The summer before I went FT, I knew it was coming so we did picnics, fishing and boating, pretty much every day.
My oldest is working on her PhD in physics and has no student loans and is being paid to get her PhD.
The youngest has 1 more week of student teaching and will have a double major in agriculture education (all 12 grades) and biology education (grades 6-12).
Thanks to my wife's family, I think we did all kinds of right things and now that I have ft UPS dough, we go on awesome vacations every summer.
I am anxiously waiting for marriages and grandkids.
My oldest is working on her PhD in physics and has no student loans and is being paid to get her PhD.
The youngest has 1 more week of student teaching and will have a double major in agriculture education (all 12 grades) and biology education (grades 6-12).
Thanks to my wife's family, I think we did all kinds of right things and now that I have ft UPS dough, we go on awesome vacations every summer.
I am anxiously waiting for marriages and grandkids.
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jumpman23
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WINNER X 10 buddy
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Lead Belly
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That's kinda funny. I visited my father in the Mansfield reformatory for seven years from the age of five to 12. This had a profound influence on me to this day. Mom had a nervous breakdown and became an agoraphobic. I lost a lot of memories between this time. Meaning I blocked it out. It comes and goes with certain smells or sounds sometimes and leaves me a little confused. All this makes me think I'm a better father than the one who is my father. I try really hard and hope that someday when my kids find out the real story they will understand why I am who I am. All in all I consider this a blessing because it made me fiercely loyal to the friends I have and my two kids and wife. I'd work myself to death for my family I have now and I care for my close friends very much. Glad things worked out some how. God bless.
jumpman23
Oh Yeah
Your a good dude Lead Belly like myself. Honor and respect for the people you care about and their loyalty to you. Totally get ya, im sending ya a big respect LB
lol.brown bomber
brown bomber
I'll present it from a whole new angle,..I was both Mom and Dad to my daughters after Mom passed away when the girls were aged 12 and 9,..yet I kept working full-time, and bending the rules to participate in my girls extracurricular activities...it required alot of late nights (after school stuff, phone calls, homework checking), and early mornings (laundry, housework, making lunches) in order to make sure that they did in fact thrive,..and they did indeed....It probably took a dozen years off of my life, but I'd make that sacrifice in order to see them be a success
OPTION3
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One of the best posts ever!
Oh, is that ever true!
My oldest son's first Christmas program...
I was working but had a little time. Was going to blow it off but something nudged me to go. I got there a little late, just as his class was getting up to sing. As I walked in, he looked up and the smile he radiated at me let me know right then and there let me know just how special my presence was and as I watched I knew I had to make these events whenever possible because even if it seems somewhat inconsequential to me, it is what is happening in my child's life and thus paramount to me.
There's more though. Even the everyday happenings are special. Reading time, Xbox with the boys, homework, taking my daughter to Justice...yeah, it's all pretty special even when I'm tired and have to force myself, it's important to them so it's important to me.
Lead Belly
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There no doubt about it. You're a great man.
bleedinbrown58
That’s Craptacular
Agreed!
