Hello everyone, just your favorite hairy mechanic here! I am having trouble with my management and union Stuart in regards to my intermittent FMLA( Family Medical Leave Act ). So to give some background, I am aloud 5 occurrence's in a rolling twelve months for sick time, I currently have 8 and because of this I have been issued a warning letter, My occurrence's have been racked up because my son who is 14 months old has been sick constantly for most of his short life thus far. I had a sit down with my sup a month ago and we discussed that if I continue to be out sick I will get a warning letter. @ the time we had that talk I only had seven occurrence's. Well I got my 8th one a week later and them came the meeting with union Stuart, sup, fleet sup and myself, @ that meeting we discussed options to get my absences under control, that conversation went from what does your wife do for work? (teacher), who carries the benefits? ( me), and who's job is more important? ( they tell me its me cause I make double her salary), they then told me I need to discuss this situation with her and let her know that she needs to stay home when our son is sick and I HAVE to come to work! They also said don't worry about her job because she can teach anywhere and you can't get a job like this anywhere. I snarled back and said you guys have no right to tell me what I have to do in my marriage or with what my wife needs to do, I have a child to support and a mortgage to pay like everyone else. After some brain storming they asked if she could go on FMLA and I said no because she didn't meet the requirements and wasn't in that position for at least a year, but I am eligible too go on it! Well thats what I did, I was approved for intermittent FMLA Just last week, All this time just so you know we've been seeing different pediatric specialists for an answer as to why my son is so sick all of the time, One doctor is testing for Cystic Fibrosis, the other for gastrointestinal problems and the third for other lung issues like severe asthma! Well wouldn't you know it 2 days ago on the 24th I had to stay out because we where in a children's hospital in Boston Ma. getting some tests done and a procedure done, so I call work and tell them this and to put me out as Family leave for the day. No problem until I need today off for him not breathing right and a double ear infection, so I call work again and this time I get crap about not abusing this FMLA and your not supposed to be out multiple times in a week and YOUR WIFE NEEDS TO SHARE THE RESPONSIBILITY! I can't believe I'm hearing this? Why? and if it continues should I look at it as Harassment?? My wife is not aloud any days off what so ever unless she has time accrued, which she does not. Her company policy is that all time off must be paid period!! no exception to this rule, if not followed then they will terminate as they are an accredited school and need to keep their certifications. I'm lost and don't know what to do or who to talk to, please HELP, any advice would be appreciated. My union Stuart which I believe is supposed to be non judgmental about issues with employees feels the same as my management does and has kind of told me the same thing they have. Thanks every one!!!