Well, let me get off of my imaginary cruise boat to say a few things. First Tie thanks for my special recognition.
Second, I bailed out of the "shame shame" thread a long time ago. I just looked at it and finished reading almost every post in that thread about 5 minutes ago. The point at which I bailed out is when tie called it a "bipolar scam" which was how he referred to the issue involving the ups manager who wanted to get on the day shift. I didn't bail out at that point because tie called it a scam ( I think almost everything is a scam by the way) but because I knew there would be some science behind that reasoning of a day shift being better for a bi polar person. I didn't want to research it at the time because I knew I was going to have to research,distill , and report. And I don't like stepping into the world of psychiatry because whatever problem you read about , it is always followed by something like "but don't despair, medical science has many wonderful remedies for your disorder": remedies that always involve drugs provided by the wonderful pharmaceutical industry (which by the way is the big winner in this whole healthcare debacle and I suspect the biggest secret backer). By the way, I cheered Tom Cruise when he let Matt Lauer "have it " years ago.
Another reason I didn't do the research is because I would probably suffer from the same syndrome I suffer from when I read a medical dictionary of diseases, syndromes, etc. I start thinking I have those diseases.
Anyway, I just did a preliminary google search with the terms "bi-polar disorder night shift" and found a ton of stuff that pretty much states that the day shift would be better for the bi-polar person. So that is probably the same info that the lawyer of the bi-polar sufferer used to make the case for his client. Yes, tie, more stress for the guy in the day and I am sure he knew that before he exposed "his weakness" to everyone around him when he went this route of ligtigation. He is a marked man in my opinion, albeit a somewhat protected one. But I suspect the only promotions he ever gets in the future will be sideways ones.
So the thread went on without me as I spent more time in the current events section where posts are more frequent and the topic of healthcare was one of interest to me. As some of you may know, tieguy is no stranger to current events and I noticed that his avatar changed. Why did he switch gears like that I wondered. Surely there was a reason. So I pm'd him a few days ago and he gave me an answer that would have made a lot more specific sense had I read the "shame shame" thread from its inception to its abrupt ending.
That all being said, now that I read it. Here are my opinions.
The wife insult: tpkl(close enough) said "you can deny it till the wife comes home" to tieguy. Quite an odd expression. I thought it might be a saying peculiar to Texas and googled it and found nothing. The image I get of the "wife coming home" in this case is tieguy's wife walking through the door at 5:35 in the afternoon precariously carrying three bags of groceries to the kitchen table as she says to her husband "what do you wanna eat?". Peculiar expression -yes. "Cows come home" would have been more familiar to me. But I don't get the image of his wife coming home 5:35 in the morning with her mistress of the night clothing barely clinging to her body , smelling of alcohol , and her purse stuffed with more money in it than it had when she left the house.
Tie, I don't know what image came to your mind, but your reaction to TRP's comment was as if he accused your wife of being the Whore of Babylon.
Now TRP(who is on a boat for a week and probably not able to respond nor should you if you can, enjoy your trip and retirement) , I don't know why you used that expression "until the wife comes home" but it apparently caused tie to go on a bezerker rage that has yet to subside. Just the other day, I jokingly commented to upstateny that he should he get his future son in law to pony up the cash for the wedding. Upstate responded with something like "I don't want to prostitute my daughter". There was no smile after his comment . I realized that there might be a possibility that he took my comment as an insult and responded with an apology whether or not it was needed. If it were needed, then it served its purpose. If it weren't needed, then no big deal. Perhaps you and tieguy can settle this amicably through private pms without the maddening crowds chiming in. And hopefully you can both patch this up with apologies for misunderstandings on both sides. The Japanese way might be appropriate here. Just my suggestion and nothing more.
