Who's really being dense here? You think that women are shy, indirect and non-assertive but have no problem complaining to management, writing out a statement & demanding termination? I'd describe that as vindictiveness. A normal, rational person who was as you described would either have somebody informally let the OP know how they felt, or arranged a formal meeting in which the OP apologized and signed the anti-harassment policy. But pursing termination...?
I can completely relate to the OP. Three years ago this April, and two weeks before I was to move into FT driving, my pants split open briefly displaying my underwear. I immediately taped my wardrobe malfunction up, but a female -- bitter I was going into FT driving and her husband wasn't (he wasn't even close to getting the bid) -- filed a complaint on me for sexual harassment. Never mind the fact that I was the only guy under 30 who didn't sag my pants at work. Never mind the fact that we had an employee who purposely wore his sweatpants so tight, it framed his junk. I too was pulled from service for the zero-tolerance policy... I got my job back at the local hearing, but not for six weeks, and not until my FT opportunity passed. But the experience made me realize that I was a ******* maroon for even wanting a career at UPS, and it put me back in school.
I cringe when I realize what society has become... anti-sexual harassment policies are an absolutely necessity but it's shameful they're abused today.
That totally sucks the big one.
That is how sexual harrassment has ruined it for us normals. How is it sexually harrassing if our ill fitting uniforms rip?
PS Im glad you are back in school.
Sexual harrassment, is bogus so much. For one if women cant handle the way men are, they should go work somewhere else. And that goes for any woman who works in a male dominate field. I appreciate the men I work with and have never once been made uncomfortable by any of them. Women make me more uncomforable than men.
I had one sup 28 yrs ago when I was not yet qualified slap me on the derriere. I knew nothing of UPS, I just got hired. The one and only reason, I said anything, is I did not want him to keep me from getting qualified. Had I known of wordly things as I do now, I would have handled it myself. I got hired from a job where I was making 3 bucks an hour, I was now making 8, and I feared if I didnt follow his advances I wouldnt make it, he got fired, as he did it to two other women. Today I would handle it differently. I think he was just not taught manners. He had a wife and kids, I still feel bad. But that was pretty overboard.
So yes, I feel today they are abused. For nefarious reasons. And that is not why they were set in place, it is a shame.