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Nine Lives
Kudos to you ... finally someone who actually understands the law.Remember that legally they have a right to inquire through certain channels. For instance they can ask your wife's doctor to reschedule appointments if its more convenient for their staffing. Look up employer's rights under FMLA, it's pretty interesting.
However I believe this is something HR would have to do, and not your local management person, like for instance your on car.