I think a little perspective is in order here. The economy is rough, pay and benefits are down worldwide. You should ask yourself why do you work here? If you don't like the overtime, maybe you should get another job. Seriously, if money doesn't mean that much to you, plenty of lower paying jobs with crappier benefits are out there.
Look, I know there is a 9.5 list, but if this company eliminated all overtime, how many posts would be on here about how we can't get anymore overtime?
We are horribly spoiled in this country, This post is a perfect example. We want everything, without any of the costs associated with getting everything.
Things at UPS work in cycles. I work in feeders in a center with almost 400 drivers. Here, management has almost 80% of the drivers working under 9.5 hours. In feeders, that is almost unheard of, but it is reality here. The package car center I come from, the drivers there, are working 50 to 60 hours a week. Where I come from, that is something to hold onto.
As far as your families go, well, this is something you can only speak to them on a one-on-one basis. If your kids want to know why you're working late, explain to them why they will be going to a nice college. If your wife complains to you that she doesn't she you as much, quietly explain to her about the nice house, the nice cars and the extra money...well, if you have to explain it, then there are bigger problems...
I'm only one guy, but I would count my lucky stars that I could sock away as much money in the 401k as I do, I would be glad that I could pay bills off in a single check, and I would be glad that my kids can go into a doctors office and get taken care of the way they are.
My problem is that most of the guys I see bitching about working excessive overtime are the guys burning up routes, skipping their lunches and kissing management ass.