Divorce benefits

[IVE GOTTA PACKAGE 4U]

I'm not saying she deserves nothing....being a mother and a wife is more than a full time job I understand that...but HALF of the 401k seems extreme..I guess depending on the amount...I could understand an amount of money to get her by until she can get a job

And what about all the years she didn't make any money while she was married raising babies?

 

[burrheadd]

No...that's just california....lawyer doesn't matter

2 words

Pre Nup

 

[Tom MacDonald]

Too many big words?

Lol I'm just not grown up enough yet for this . Being honest like I always am on this site.

 

[UpstateNYUPSer(Ret)]

2 words

Pre Nup

Nothing says “I love you” like a formal agreement.

 

[dookie stain]

And what about all the years she didn't make any money while she was married raising babies?

That's why I said give her enough money to live until she's able to establish herself...not leave here high and dry

 

[dookie stain]

The amount is irrelevant.

I bet you wear a fanny pack.

 

[IVE GOTTA PACKAGE 4U]

That's why I said give her enough money to live until she's able to establish herself...not leave here high and dry

And what about all the years she didn't pay into Social security, maybe a matching 401k and possibly a pension plan?

 

[UpstateNYUPSer(Ret)]

That's why I said give her enough money to live until she's able to establish herself...not leave here high and dry

The thought process is that the money was earned while married and as such belongs to both spouses, unless other arrangements are made.

Trade offs are quite common.

 

[over9five]

2 words

Pre Nup

Nothing says “I love you” like a formal agreement.

My thought is that if you think you need a pre-nup, just don't get married.
It won't last because you're planning to fail.

 

[dookie stain]

The thought process is that the money was earned while married and as such belongs to both spouses, unless other arrangements are made.

Trade offs are quite common.

Go kill a bug.

 

[UpstateNYUPSer(Ret)]

I bet you wear a fanny pack.

Go kill a bug.

Shhhh......the grownups are talking.

 

[Jones]

My friends wife cheated on him...she got EVERYTHING...including custody of the child...he also has to pay her $2,700 a month....how on earth is that fair?

Every time I've heard a horror story like this and bothered to dig deeper there always turns out to be more to it. If you get screwed that hard in court there's more going on than just "she cheated on me and the judge gave her everything..."

 

[dookie stain]

Every time I've heard a horror story like this and bothered to dig deeper there always turns out to be more to it. If you get screwed that hard in court there's more going on than just "she cheated on me and the judge gave her everything..."

He's one of my best friends...I know the whole story.

 

[dookie stain]

Shhhh......the grownups are talking.

Sorry you old bag of bones.

 

[Jones]

He's one of my best friends...I know the whole story.

Like I said.

 

[sailfish]

My friends wife cheated on him...she got EVERYTHING...including custody of the child...he also has to pay her $2,700 a month....how on earth is that fair?

There's only one way to truly protect yourself.

And what about all the years she didn't make any money while she was married raising babies?

I'm sure she could just settle in and get support from the other guy she was ing. No?

2 words

Pre Nup

Not worth the paper they're written on. A judge can throw those right out.

 

[UpstateNYUPSer(Ret)]

Not worth the paper they're written on. A judge can throw those right out.

Only if they unfairly favor one spouse over the other.

 

[rod]

Just so you don't have enough to worry about remember-----she can always haul your sorry ass back to court for more. Sleep well.

 

[sailfish]

Only if they unfairly favor one spouse over the other.

If you get one to protect your assets, two spouses RARELY bring equal resources to the table. So yeah. You're gonna get divorce raped.

 

[IVE GOTTA PACKAGE 4U]

There's only one way to truly protect yourself.


I'm sure she could just settle in and get support from the other guy she was ing. No?


Not worth the paper they're written on. A judge can throw those right out.

Well every story is certainly different. Number one I don't plan on getting divorced. But my wife sacrificed her future earnings to have a family and she does not deserve to be poor because of it