An Open Letter to Brown Cafe Bullies and Flamers

[Integrity]

That's funny as hell!

I don’t get it.

May I ask what is your position at UPS?

You can ask.

I have never revealed it publicly on the BC. I have only revealed it once in private conversation.

PLEASE don't say, "HR" or company jester.

Ok. I won’t.

How about pranks and practical jokes?

Not a fan of pranks or practical jokes.

 

[542thruNthru]

I know, right? Remember when it was just about hating @542thruNthru? I miss that.

We all do.

 

[Integrity]

Did you like Caddy Shack? Blazing Saddles? Airplane? Napoleon dynamite? The Big Labowski?

Yes,yes,yes,never watched,yes.

 

[Integrity]

We all do.

I don’t.

I don’t like when anything is about hating a fellow BCer.

Please don’t speak for me.

 

[zubenelgenubi]

Tyrant: A cruel and oppressive ruler.

An arbiter.....fair enough. Yet, he has no power. Mods do.....tyrant would be more fair here.

Sorry, I thought it was clear that I wasn't being literal. But this is the problem with trying to control others, misunderstandings.

Now, his "opinion" about what's fair or whatever may or may not sway the tyrants....

You can act in a tyrannical manner by attempting to impose your will on others using existing power structures. That's how the mask mandates work.

Personal attacking another person is bonding? Like a criminal and their victim? Well, they are forever bonded...I guess. Bizarre.

Calling people names on the internet isn't a crime, in the US. If you want to compare it to a criminal and victim scenario, you can. Some cases might even rise to the level of warranting that, which is why I'm not opposed to enforcing the TOS rule when needed. But, by and large, the behavior that is seen on BC is along the lines of hazing.

Hazing being a social ritual whereby people test each other's limits, develop mutual respect for one another, and induct others into any sort of a "club". As in the situation that prompted this thread, @542thruNthru was signalling to @Captain Qwark that he saw her as being "in the club" by making fun of her, believing should understood his intent, and not meaning to make her upset. It's a sign of respect that sometimes is misunderstood by the receiving party. And sometimes the signalling party misunderstands and takes it too far.

Some people get it, some don't. That's ok. But if you feel like an outsider, it's probably because you don't understand hazing and its role in human interaction. People who are extra sensitive, or particularly introverted, tend not to understand the ritual. I didn't understand it very well back in highschool, and almost got the crap kicked out of me because the way I reacted to it. I finally got it figured out, mostly, in boot camp. Learning to haze is a good exercise in learning to stand up for yourself in a way that won't get you shunned from the group. If you don't care about belonging, that's ok too.

 

[zubenelgenubi]

Except some are not allowed the same latitude and boundaries.

Not my problem. Take it up with the tyrants.

Interesting.

Patterns.....throttled(laughable).....how many hundreds(examples) do you need?

I don't even know why you are directing this question to me. How many examples do I need for what? I'm not denying personal attacks deserving of corrective action exist, nor am I in any position to do anything about them.

 

[542thruNthru]

I don’t.

I don’t like when anything is about hating a fellow BCer.

Please don’t speak for me.

Ok everyone who's opinion that matters to me does.

Is that better?

 

[burrheadd]

Your position on this matter appears to be in violation of BC TOS #6.

Do you have all the TOS memorized?

Seems like something you’d do

 

[burrheadd]

I don’t like to paint people’s feelings responses with so broad a brush but I get your point.

I have had to use the ignore feature once or twice with a couple of particularly challenging BC members, it is always an option.

Did you get beat up a lot as a boy?

 

[burrheadd]

Except some are not allowed the same latitude and boundaries.

Truest words you’ve ever put on the BC
and you did it in one sentence without pontificating good job

 

[oldngray]

 

[UnionStrong]

In my opinion this does not apply here.

That is actually not true.

I’m afraid it is

 

[Wally]

He can buy me a beer I have no problem with that

An oldie, funny as all heck!

 

[Wally]

Omerta punk. OMERTA!

Nobody likes a rat.

lol!

 

[Wally]

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She's hot? Is that what you are saying?

Can we say who the "she" in question is?... (yes her!)

 

[BlackFriday]

I don’t.

I don’t like when anything is about hating a fellow BCer.

Please don’t speak for me.

I don’t get it.

You can ask.

I have never revealed it publicly on the BC. I have only revealed it once in private conversation.

Ok. I won’t.

Not a fan of pranks or practical jokes.

Why would you not reveal what your job is? I feel this is very telling.
At one point you said your name yet you won't say where, or if, you work for UPS?

 

[Integrity]

Ok everyone who's opinion that matters to me does.

Is that better?

Yes.

 

[Integrity]

Do you have all the TOS memorized?

No.

Seems like something you’d do

Thank you.

 

[Integrity]

Did you get beat up a lot as a boy?

No, I did not get beat up a lot when I was a child.

 

[Integrity]

I’m afraid it is

I disagree.

You don’t have to be afraid.