Thats exactly why its not easy, because it would be ripe for abuse. The gay marriage thing will hopefully change that. Marriage is a commitment either straight or gay. No commitment, no insurance.
I only commented on what you said:
"Not really a straight or gay issue. I could live with my buddy Joe and call him my partner so he could get insurance for free. The gay marriage thing might change all that."
Insinuating that its so easy to get partner benefits when that couldn't be further from the truth.
There is no attitude with this post just talking. I know it's difficult to get the tone of which I am typing.