Finding a Wife in the Philippines

[Box Ox]

And many are happy to marry an American and stay in the Philippines near their family. It's a cultural norm for daughters to assist their parents in their old age. An American husband who gives $50-$100 a month to the parents to help out is highly valued.

I have a Filipina neighbor who has her mother live with her. Has a good job here in the US. Still owns a house in the Philippines and plans to move back and live off of all that American money when she retires. Easy to pay somebody to take care of it until then.

She and many women from the Philippines probably aren't nearly as helpless/powerless as some might think. They like men who can protect and provide for their families. That's a pretty universal trait among women. And they can be hot for white American men just like white American men can be hot for Asian women. They're often not just being "saved" by a guy with money who's taking advantage of them.

 

[vantexan]

And they are taught above all else not to buck the system. A life of servitude to men is fine as long as they don't know any better and the mechanisms remain in place to make certain that they never do .

You do know the Philippines has had a female president? Has the U.S. had one? What you're saying is everyone else's culture is fine as long as they do what I want. Odder still is the defense of Muslims in this very forum in spite of their treating women like chattel and killing gays, but let an older white guy want to marry a young Filipina woman and whoa!!

 

[bbsam]

The man (?) will be responsible for supporting the new wife, any married kids, the parents, her cousins, her aunts & uncles.….housing them too and feeding them.....could be a really costly thing. Don't say I didn't warn you!

Or just kill her and throw her in the weeds.

 

[bbsam]

This all has the feel of thinly veiled sex trade operations.

 

[Box Ox]

Or just kill her and throw her in the weeds.

That’ll only become really common if the hard left tolerance movement gets its way and Muslim men start pouring into the US as they have been into Europe.

 

[Serf]

A lot of guys in the Army married "juicy girls" from Phillipines. Basically they come over to work in South Korea. Some are straight up hookers. Other just in the bar to get you to buy 20$ drinks.

 

[DriveInDriveOut]

Like I said, as long as they’re of age.

And Vantexan has said 13 is old enough.
Creepy.

 

[DriveInDriveOut]

And of course the American track record with divorce has risen from this. 75% of first marriages, 50% of all marriages end in divorce.

Wrong

 

[Jones]

This all has the feel of thinly veiled sex trade operations.

It's a creep show for sure.

 

[Operational needs]

And Vantexan has said 13 is old enough.
Creepy.

Yeah, 13 is too young even though it’s acceptable there and a 13 year old is much more mature in a Third World country.

 

[BrownArmy]

Wow, this is a thread.

 

[bacha29]

I don’t understand why y’all have a problem with this. As long as the woman is of age and consenting, it’s no different than woman all over the world, including the US, who marry for money and security. It’s been going on for thousands of years. It’s a win-win for both of them. I saw the exact same thing in Ethiopia...old white men with beautiful, young Ethiopian women.

I think you object because it was @vantexan who posted it.

Consent ? Consent and duress are not the same thing. Consent from and by whom? The parents? The church male elder? You can't make me believe that the woman in question is consenting freely and without pressure from her peers and family. You don't just go to the Philippines shopping for a wife like she's just another consumer goods that you put in your grocery cart and pay at the check out line.
If some guys want to do that fine. As for me I wouldn't stoop that low just to conform to American social patterns. Instead I would simply offer instead a multi decade record of productive contribution. Nobody cares anymore about who you're hooked up with or who you're boinking . Working hard, paying taxes, speaking English ( additional languages if you can) and obeying the law. That's what scores points in modern America and while chicks might not find you attractive or endearing they do have to respect you for what you've contributed and accomplished on your own.

 

[vantexan]

And Vantexan has said 13 is old enough.
Creepy.

I've said if a 13 or 14 yr old wants to marry an 18 or 19 yr old and has the permission of her parent and/or court then that's fine with me. And also legally fine with the majority of states.

 

[brownmonster]

Why go the the Philippines? Some of the Hmong girls running around these parts are cute.

 

[rickyb]

For generations now men from all over the world have gone to the Philippines in search of love and marriage. Why? Filipinas are known to not care about a man's age but place a priority on whether he can take care of her and their children. And culturally they are raised to believe it's their duty to take good care of their husband.

Not that there aren't ever any problems. The Philippines has a 70% poverty rate. Hundreds of thousands of women work as sex workers to survive and many men have had marriages go bust because they fell in love with such a lady. But most men who've found wives in the Philippines have in many surveys reported being very happy with their marriage.

So are men going to a bride store? Quite a few have met women online at dating websites. A lot of those ladies are legitimate but quite a few are playing many men for sympathy and money. Some are even men scamming unsuspecting Westerners. Other men go to the Philippines and rent a place and eventually meet through every day interactions at malls, etc someone who shows interest in them. Read years ago a post from an American who said he never knew what it was like to be a rock star until he walked through a mall in the Philippines. Women kept coming up to him and giving him their phone numbers. Even guys were coming up and saying they had a sister or a niece they'd like him to meet. It's not hard meeting people in the Philippines!

We are very quick to run down other countries and it's true that life in developing nations has it drawbacks. So why would those men choose to live there? One poster on a Yahoo group said when he traveled back to Houston his family just ignored him for the most part. People in general were very distant. But when he walked through his neighborhood in the Philippines people greeted him everywhere, called him Tio(uncle)Henry. I experienced that myself in several places. It's not hard to see the attraction of after a life of hard work a fellow can live comfortably in a place where he is shown love and respect rather than being a lonely, impoverished guy in the States.

I already know the response of many here. And I've already seen the twisting of the law of the Philippines to make it seem like all men looking for a wife there are just pervs looking to exploit women for money. It truly says much more about the person who twists the law, leaving off the part about exploitation to cast all marriage seekers in the same light, than it does about older, lonely men looking for love in their last years. And of course there are those who'll say too bad, stay in the States and live in misery, it's all you deserve loser. Which is incentive enough to leave. Life is too short to deal with such people if you don't have to.

fyi ralph nader calls america a highly developed third world country. i havent heard enough other opinions to agree or disagree with that, but i do know america is missing out on alot of rights other countries enjoy and has really alarming stats.

you can probably get a hotter wife there since she likely wants to leave there for america. but thats no reason alone for her to marry you, so watch out for that.

my east EU coworker says they have a higher standard of living than here since when communism ended, they all inherited their houses. so theres very low cost of living plus the welfare the govt gives them disincentivizes them from having to be exploited by a capitalist.

 

[vantexan]

Consent ? Consent and duress are not the same thing. Consent from and by whom? The parents? The church male elder? You can't make me believe that the woman in question is consenting freely and without pressure from her peers and family. You don't just go to the Philippines shopping for a wife like she's just another consumer goods that you put in your grocery cart and pay at the check out line.
If some guys want to do that fine. As for me I wouldn't stoop that low just to conform to American social patterns. Instead I would simply offer instead a multi decade record of productive contribution. Nobody cares anymore about who you're hooked up with or who you're boinking . Working hard, paying taxes, speaking English ( additional languages if you can) and obeying the law. That's what scores points in modern America and while chicks might not find you attractive or endearing they do have to respect you for what you've contributed and accomplished on your own.

It's a documented fact that majority of women prefer men who make more than they do. And with women outnumbering men in college that's getting harder to find. And you're making no allowances for older divorced men and widowers.

 

[vantexan]

Wrong

Prove it.

 

[DriveInDriveOut]

Prove it.

You make a false claim then demand I prove your fiction?

You know who likes to repeat the fake statistic that half of marriages end in divorce? People who suck at relationships, because it makes them feel better about themselves.
Carry on.

 

[DriveInDriveOut]

I've said if a 13 or 14 yr old wants to marry an 18 or 19 yr old and has the permission of her parent and/or court then that's fine with me. And also legally fine with the majority of states.

A rational person would understand that a 13 year old is not capable of consent.

 

[bbsam]

A rational person would understand that a 13 year old is not capable of consent.

Have you ever talked to a 14 year old?

Who the hell wants to marry that?!?