Let me tell you my personal experience. Don't care if this paints me a certain way. I took a reduced pension at 55. Didn't have much choice with health issues. My wife had bought a house in a KC suburb a year before we got married and had a renter in it. His lease was up in 6 months. We couldn't afford where we were living on my pension but I discovered there were a bunch of motels in Branson, MO that rented rooms all inclusive for around $100-$150 a week depending on the motel. So we went there, looked at a few, rented one. She decided she didn't like it, wanted to move into a much more expensive apartment that we couldn't afford. Even more expensive than the one we had left. One night she started berating me about it. Wouldn't stop. Went on well over an hour nonstop calling me everything in the book and getting more harsh by the minute. I finally told her I couldn't take it anymore after begging her to stop. Said I was going to leave her. She shrugged like she couldn't care less. I got angry and slapped her. Didn't punch her, didn't knock her down, didn't restrain her from leaving the room. Wasn't a hard slap either. She was a big fan of the show "Cops", and she thought she'd teach me a lesson by calling the sheriff. Taught me a lesson alright. I was arrested, held for 5 hours, had a court date. Was given choice of 3 months in jail with permanent record of misdemeanor, or 2 years unsupervised probation with an anger management class at my expense plus court costs. The misdemeanor would then drop off my record. I took the probation, and after completing the class I traveled overseas. The misdemeanor on my record during that two years kept me from numerous jobs, and about the only thing I could do to help out at all was to live overseas super cheap while I paid her car payment and a lot of utility bills. The other thing that drove me overseas was her bringing in her daughter on the pretense she was going to finish college. The girl sat around smoking pot and cigarettes, drinking Red Bull, ordering pizza, acted like she owned the place. After 2.5 years of not going to school I insisted she either go or move out. Mama Bear protected her cub, and one morning that extremely fat pot smoking cub told me I was a liar and a disgusting person. She was mad that I brought up she needed to get her oil changed on her car. It was about 6 months overdue and I noticed it while giving her car the umpteenth jumpstart because she would let it sit in the driveway until it died while she used her mother's car and didn't pay for gas. Has a part time job and gives her mother $60 a month which she more than gets back in meals. This Fall she's due to get her associate degree almost 5 years after moving in. Plans to quit school then. Anyways my wife the Mama Bear told me I had to leave after her daughter calling me names because she was tired of the conflict. That's when I financed a Honda Element to live in and drove around the Rockies. I've been subject to ridicule for living overseas and living in my car. Guys like you say we're emasculated for not running our own homes. You may not know that a woman can push you over the brink and has the full force of the law behind her. If I had knocked the crap out of her daughter for talking to me that way in my own home the police would see I was arrested for domestic violence. The conviction was cleared off the books but arrest records available to law enforcement aren't. I was almost denied entry into Canada to make a delivery but they decided to let me in for 24 hrs but I can't reenter Canada for 10 years. On the plus side my wife makes $20hr now because the time I spent constantly being rejected for jobs forced her to seek better work. That's it in a nutshell. You think you know but if you ever lose your temper and lash out because you were pushed too far you may be on the wrong side of the law very quickly. That split second of not thinking cost me a lot.