This may seem like a morbid subject, but what plans, if any, do you have for 'after you're gone'? As a child I was forced to go to funerals and viewings and I absolutely hated every minute of them. They were drawn out affairs that took a real toll on everyone involved. For me, I want to be cremated and my ashes scattered on the golf course....that way at least my hubby will visit me all the time. Or maybe the Pacific Ocean. We just got a funeral card from the husband of a resident who recently passed. There was a nice poem and at the bottom it read..."Final resting place, the Pacific Ocean." I like that. I don't want the big, full-blown funeral. I want friends & family to have a party after the whole cremation thing is over and celebrate the humor of my life.